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The Book You Wish Your Parents Had Read (And Your Children Will Be Glad That You Did)
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This is a lovely book for anyone starting a family. I skimmed some as my children are virtually adults and from what I've read I completely agree with Philipa. Give your children loads of patience, attention, be there for them whenever they need you and they should grow into happy independent individuals. In short, the more time, attention and care you give them when they are small the less time you will have to spend sorting out problems when they are older. I agree with Philipa, I think it's hugely important for children to have a parent around when they're small and have the option to get in your bed if they need it, it doesn't last for ever, I wish I could enjoy some of those times again. This book has some lovely, kind and sensible advice. Sadly though it might be one of those books you are more likely to read if you already have those views. I really hope this helps some people and their children.
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November 5, 2019
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Jan 24, 2020 05:53AM
Wonderful review. The topic of family life has gotten more interesting for me lately. Mostly because I realized how hard it is to be lonely.
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Thank you Joaquin. Have you recently left home? It is hard when you find yourself on your own for the first time. I hope it starts to get easier for you.
Hilary wrote: "Thank you Joaquin. Have you recently left home? It is hard when you find yourself on your own for the first time. I hope it starts to get easier for you."I have not left home yet because I am still a high school student. I do not think I will be leaving home when I go to college either even if many of the popular Philippine universities are actually far from where I live.
I think that you can be lonely even if your family is always around. Like many people, I end up spend more time looking at my phone than talking to my family. I think that many people younger than me will end up doing the same because gadgets are what people usually give them to fight boredom. This might take away moments that might have been opportunities to create valuable memories with their family.
That's sad to hear you feel lonely with your family around Joaquin. Hopefully when you start college you will find some friends you have something in common with. Do you have any clubs you could go to? A book club or something? I agree, online friends are great but you need some real life interaction too. Time spent together as a family should make happy memories. I hope things are better for you soon :-)
Thank you for your comment. Aside from my family, my face-to-face interaction usually happens in school where I am usually comfortable talking to my classmates. I also hope that I can get friends who like to read outside of Goodreads. I hope things are going well for you too. :) :)
If you are spending most of your phone time looking at things or playing games, or other solitary activities, you might also consider joining an online book club or a discussion group for something you are interested in.
Joaquin wrote: "Thank you for your comment. Aside from my family, my face-to-face interaction usually happens in school where I am usually comfortable talking to my classmates. I also hope that I can get friends w..."It's good that you have some school friends. Do your parents know you feel lonely Joaquin? Sometimes people don't question things too much and maybe they think everything is okay or they are being the way their parents were without thinking too much about it. Sadly for whatever reason some people have parents that just don't get it right and that's hard for their children. Sometimes though the people who have had difficult or unloved childhoods go on to have very happy lives and appreciate their children all the more for it. I am definitely one of those.
Mir wrote: "If you are spending most of your phone time looking at things or playing games, or other solitary activities, you might also consider joining an online book club or a discussion group for something..."Good idea Mir, a reading group on goodreads perhaps.
Hilary wrote: "Do your parents know you feel lonely Joaquin? Sometimes people don't question things too much and maybe they think everything is okay or they are being the way their parents were without thinking too much about it. Sadly for whatever reason some people have parents that just don't get it right and that's hard for their children..."That's a good point, Hilary. A lot of parents assume that if you are doing okay in school and staying out trouble, everything is fine.
I agree Mir, it's probably really common for well meaning parents to not get it right and assume everything is okay. Just like Philip Larkin's This Be the Verse. I try to do the opposite of what my parents did with me with my children and it's worked so far! But even with parents who try to do their best they don't always realise. It's good if you have a relationship where you can at least talk and explain your feelings.
Hilary, helpful review for what sounds like a good book.
Hilary wrote: "Joaquin wrote: "Thank you for your comment. Aside from my family, my face-to-face interaction usually happens in school where I am usually comfortable talking to my classmates. I also hope that I c..."My parents know that I feel lonely. In fact, loneliness is one of the topics we discuss about. I agree with what you said about thinking everything is okay. Sometimes we think that because we are uncomfortable talking about the problems in our life.
Lisa wrote: "Hilary, helpful review for what sounds like a good book."Thanks Lisa, yes some nice kind advice.
Joaquin wrote: "Hilary wrote: "Joaquin wrote: "Thank you for your comment. Aside from my family, my face-to-face interaction usually happens in school where I am usually comfortable talking to my classmates. I als..."Well that's a good thing you can atleast talk about how you feel Joaquin. Do you think that helped them understand or change anything they do or don't do? It is hard for people set in their ways to change sometimes.
