Intimacy coordinator

In a May 2022 Instagram post, intimacy coordinator and intimacy director Yarit Dor explained the difference between the two roles.

An intimacy coordinator is a term associated with screen roles, typically in TV, film, commercials, and photoshoots, whereas an intimacy director is associated with live performance roles, such as: theatre, dance, circus, performance art, and fashion shows.^[2]

SAG-AFTRA lists a series of expertise and training expectations, as well as additional requirements for intimacy coordinators.^[1]

• consent training
• anti-harassment/anti sexual harassment training
• movement coaching and masking techniques
• proper use of modesty garments and barriers
• mediation or conflict resolution training
• gender identity and sexual orientation training
• anti-racist/equality, diversity, and inclusion training
• bystander intervention
• mental health first aid, trauma stewardship, or related training

• Must have state and federal background check
• Experience and an ability to adapt and implement the roles responsibilities, functions, and protocols on a variety of sets
• Intimacy coordinators should maintain the confidentiality of an actors work and experience in performing highly sensitive scenes unless they have the actors permission to publicly share this information. The public release of details about an actors scene work or confidences entrusted to the intimacy coordinator without the performers consent is unacceptable.

According to Intimacy Directors International, a nonprofit organization founded in 2016 by Alicia Rodis, Tonia Sina, and Siobhan Richardson^[3] that advocates for the function, an intimacy coordinator is expected to ensure that:^[4]

• all staff and actors are aware of the context of the intimacy as part of the story,
• communication about the intimacy takes place among participants and avenues for reporting harassment are available,
• actors continually consent to all scenes of intimacy,
• all scenes of intimacy are performed according to a previously agreed-to choreography, and
• actors are encouraged to mark the end of each intimate scene with a moment to signal the return to real-life interaction.

There are many different instances in which a production set would require an intimacy coordinator. The job of an intimacy coordinator is not to ruin creativity, but rather to help produce that creativity in a way that is safe for all those involved.^[5] Scenes involving simulated sex and/or kissing, power dynamics, suggestive movements, and sexual trauma among other things would be instances where an intimacy coordinator would be necessary during filming.^[6] Following the #MeToo Movement and the recent changes to laws surrounding intimacy filming standards, the use of an intimacy coordinator has become an accepted industry standard.^[7]

SAG-AFTRA lists a series of accredited intimacy coordinator training programs. They have met their requirements, which were created in consultation with industry professionals.^[8]

The accredited programs are:

•   CINTIMA
•   Intimacy Coordinators Canada
•   Intimacy Professionals Education Collective
•   Intimacy Directors and Coordinators
•   Intimacy Professionals Association
•   Intimacy on Set
•   Key Intimate Scenes
•   Moving Body Arts
•  / / / /  Nordic Intimacy Coordinators
•   Principal Intimacy Professionals
•   Safe Sets Intimacy Coordinator Training and Mentoring

• Amanda Blumenthal: Euphoria and The White Lotus^[9]
• Vanessa Coffey: Happy Valley and Outlander^[9]
• Yarit Dor: Adult Material and Rivals^[10]
• Ita O'Brien: Normal People and Sex Education^[11]
• Enric Ortuño: Domina and Everything I Know About Love^[12]
• Alicia Rodis: Watchmen and We Own This City^[9]
• Jessica Steinrock: Moxie and Never Have I Ever^[13]
• Lizzy Talbot: Bridgerton and The Witcher^[9]
• David Thackeray: Industry and It's a Sin^[14]
• Marcus Watson: Bros and American Horror Story^[9]

While intimacy coordinators already existed in the realm of live theater, demand for their role gained significant traction within Hollywood and television and streaming platforms after the 2017 Weinstein scandal and the subsequent rise of the #MeToo movement.^[15] These events highlighted the often routine nature of sexual harassment and misconduct that actors, particularly women, routinely faced within the industry. Actresses such as Emily Meade began to demand professional safeguards for their well-being on set.^[15] They pointed out the imbalanced power dynamics often seen in productions, which could leave actors—particularly young and inexperienced ones—feeling too powerless to speak up if directors, staff members or other actors disregarded their consent or previous agreements regarding intimate scenes.^[16]

With the popularization of the #MeToo movement, numerous Hollywood-based actors joined the movement and fostered a new environment where actors began coming forward to share their stories about sexual assault while filming.^[17] This large-scale movement unearthed many instances of sexual harassment throughout Hollywood, most notably shedding light on the producer Harvey Weinstein, who had 80 allegations of sexual harassment against him.^[17] Following this time, the calls for the film industry to take charge and protect its actors became more pronounced, and it became apparent that changes needed to be made in the industry.

In 2017, the London talent agency Carey Dodd Associates fronted a campaign for an industry standard in handling scenes of intimacy using guidelines developed by Ita O'Brien.^[18] In October 2018, television network HBO adopted a policy of using intimacy coordinators for all its series and films with intimate scenes.^[19] Soon after, other networks such as Netflix, Starz, Hulu, and Amazon began exploring the use of intimacy coordinators, and by 2020 there were 23 Emmy-nominated scripted programs that worked with intimacy coordinators.^[20] In January 2019, Netflix released Sex Education, its first production that used an intimacy coordinator, Ita O'Brien.^[21]

During HBO's filming of Game of Thrones, Emilia Clarke often spoke of feeling like she was too inexperienced of an actress to fight the nudity requirements on the show.^[22] With this, multiple other actresses in the Game of Thrones cast spoke of similar discomfort when filming nudes scenes on the show.^[22] Since then, HBO has adopted the use of intimacy coordinators in all intimate scenes, including with the newest film development in the A Song of Ice and Fire series, House of the Dragon.^[19][22] Actress Emily Carey, who played young Alicent Hightower in the series, recalled how nervous she was to film an intimate scene with Paddy Considine during production.^[22] But, she credited the series intimacy coordinator, Miriam Lucia, for helping her feel safe and calm while filming these intimate scenes.^[23]

Actors and filmmakers both in the UK and the United States have supported the implementation of intimacy coordinators. In 2019, the US actor’s association SAG-AFTRA created an official agreement with Intimacy Coordinators International in hopes of raising awareness of the importance of intimacy coordinators when filming.^[24] In addition, Equity, a British actors’ union, created a support network called Safe Space in 2019. Safe Space was designed to help increase the number of sexual harassment cases that are being reported to British authorities and to ensure that everyone feels safe reporting these incidents.^[24] The addition of these organizations to filming in both the US and UK has made the industry safer and more comfortable for actors, while also lessening the legal risk that certain films may face surrounding the production of intimate scenes.^[24] Following this movement, intimacy coordinators have been successfully utilized in a number of popular productions including Bridgerton, Euphoria, and I May Destroy You.^[24]

The fourth season of the TV series High Maintenance featured a storyline on an intimacy coordinator, portrayed by Abigail Bengson. Series co-creator and director Katja Blichfeld spoke in support of the profession, noting it was "a relief to be able to turn to a person for these moments that, in the past, we've had to navigate to our best ability."^[25]

Actors and filmmakers have criticized the implementation of intimacy coordinators. Actor Sean Bean in an interview with Variety criticized the practice stating "I think the natural way lovers behave would be ruined by someone bringing it right down to a technical exercise."^[26] French film director and screen writer Mia Hansen-Løve has also spoken against the use of intimacy coordinators calling them "some kind of virtue police"^[27] British actor Michael Caine has questioned the need for the use of intimacy coordinators on set, stating how he feels that they interfere with the shooting of intimate scenes between actors.^[28] Additionally Australian actress Toni Collette has said that the use of intimacy coordinators on set have made her feel "more anxious"^[29] but has said that it would depend if she would work with them again, stating that they bring a "new energy" to set.^[29] American actor and producer Michael Douglas and Argentine-Italian filmmaker Gaspar Noé have also spoken out against the practice.  

Sam Levinson's 2023 TV series The Idol satirized the use of intimacy coordinators.^[30]

• "From Normal People to Game of Thrones, sex on screen matters for actors and audiences alike".
• "How to Become an Intimacy Coordinator".
• "Getting Intimate".
• "Meet The 'Intimacy Directors' Who Choreograph Sex Scenes".
• "Let's Talk About Simulated Sex: Intimacy Coordinators Two Years On".

• Pace, Chelsea (2020). Staging Sex: Best Practices, Tools, and Techniques for Theatrical Intimacy. Taylor & Francis. ISBN 978-0-429-94645-5. Retrieved 29 June 2023.
• Barclay, Kari (2020). Directing Desire: Intimacy Directing, Consent, and Simuated Sexuality on the Contemporary U.S. Stage (PhD thesis). Stanford University. ProQuest 2570103458.

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