The rest of the story... While other books explain what abuse is and looks like, this book seeks to outline the 'why' of it. Character Disturbance explaThe rest of the story... While other books explain what abuse is and looks like, this book seeks to outline the 'why' of it. Character Disturbance explains the rest of the story behind your dance cycles with toxic and disordered personalities. You simply are blind to the reasoning and MO of predators who don't think the way normal people do. Can't ever seem to solve problems in your relationship? While you're trying to solve problems they're trying to manipulate & control or 'impression manage' their public image. For me, this is a final puzzle piece of why nothing can be solved. Our goals are NOT the same. A truly eye-opening look into the mind of abusers & character disturbed persons....more
You can't begin to solve a problem if you don't have the facts, and what can be more dangerous than someone hell-bent on covert destruction. If you caYou can't begin to solve a problem if you don't have the facts, and what can be more dangerous than someone hell-bent on covert destruction. If you can't see how an abuser operates, you can't hope to escape the abuse. Between Don Hennessy & Lundy Bancroft, I not only have re-found my sanity, intuition & self confidence, I will be able to ever after see when I'm being abused. Armed with the knowledge that it wasn't my fault, I've been able to crawl out from under victimhood to become survivor/thriver. If you feel demoralized, lost and confused, you MUST read this book!...more
WHAT BELIEF SYSTEM IS HELD BY ABUSIVE MEN? This statement is well worth the cost of this book alone! I read it on the heels of Lundy Bancroft's book, WHAT BELIEF SYSTEM IS HELD BY ABUSIVE MEN? This statement is well worth the cost of this book alone! I read it on the heels of Lundy Bancroft's book, Why Does He Do That? Both books together ended a lifetime of self-doubt & self-blame. If you're feeling demoralized, confused & desperate for answers, this book may help you as much as it's helped me. Emotional abuse is tied to a belief system which espouses inequality in relationship, whether truly narcissistic or not. Every abuser thinks they have the right to abuse. Most are well aware that they're abusing. The abuse IS the problem, NOT you or your response to it! This book will help you discover what you're dealing with & why it's NOT your fault!...more
While this Daily Wisdom by Lundy Bancroft is short daily bites, meditations and encouragement for the abused, I will say I enjoyed the unvarnished, haWhile this Daily Wisdom by Lundy Bancroft is short daily bites, meditations and encouragement for the abused, I will say I enjoyed the unvarnished, hard hitting original of Why Does He Do That? One of the reasons emotional abuse is so insidious is because it's so confusing. A few good days mixed in with bad has you thinking it's surely normal. When all the blame is placed squarely on you by the machinations of a partner, you begin to believe you're at fault. Lundy Bancroft's books have opened my eyes to what defines abuse. I felt like he was writing about my life & had seen it firsthand. No matter what book of his you choose it will help you believe in yourself again. This Daily Wisdom doles it out in small digestible bites. But if you can stomach the hard-hitting version of Why Does He Do That, I'd suggest that first. ...more
While first published in 2002, this book is as needed & timely today. An excellent & informative read for anyone especially if you're hurting, confuseWhile first published in 2002, this book is as needed & timely today. An excellent & informative read for anyone especially if you're hurting, confused & full of self doubt due to your relationship, this book will be your friend as you try to untangle any abuse you've suffered. The first step is to fully understand exactly what you're dealing with, in all its confusing variations & how it neatly dovetails with other problems you may be experiencing. Heal by empowering yourself with knowledge & learn to trust yourself & your perceptions again. While the subject may seem daunting, depressing & insurmountable to you now, this will help you find your way back to your truth. I've read many books on subject and this one's written by an expert in the field, who's seen first hand what you're going through from both abuser's and victim's eyes. If you've come here on your search towards healing this is a perfect place to start & the beginning of taking yourself back to yourself!...more
I purchased a 2023 copy of this book & I'm very glad I did. While narcissism & its attending dark traits are on a spectrum, the description of the manI purchased a 2023 copy of this book & I'm very glad I did. While narcissism & its attending dark traits are on a spectrum, the description of the manipulation practices used will all be too familiar to those who've suffered through them. In addition, Cole Pearce also writes about how to identify these tactics & thereby protect yourself by recognizing body language & mirroring examples. Of course the best way to deal with a manipulator is to walk/run away, but sometimes circumstances don't allow it. I am glad for a hard copy I can reread if second guessing myself (which IS the point of manipulation.) When in the thick of it this book will help keep you sensible & prepared....more
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