Relationships 101 Quotes

“Cheating in relationship is a sign of self-regulation failure. When it happens ones, it is a mistake. When it happens twice, it is unfortunate. But when it happens thrice or more, it is a pattern indicating primitive, uncivilized inhuman behavior.”
― Abhijit Naskar, Wise Mating: A Treatise on Monogamy

“Staying in an unhealthy relationship that robs you of peace of mind, is not being loyal. It is choosing to hurt yourself mentally, emotionally and sometimes, physically.”
― Kemi Sogunle, Beyond the Pain by Kemi Sogunle

“It really is quite simple. All women really want is to be needed, valued and loved above anyone else and they will make you a keeper. It's your actions she is paying attention to, not your words.”
― Shannon L. Alder

“Beauty is an illusion, created by Mother Nature to drive the human species in the path of reproduction. In reality, beauty is irrelevant to human life, especially in a relationship. What you today perceive as beautiful and special, over time, becomes not so special. That’s how the human brain works. It is not beauty that keeps a relationship alive, it is attachment. Without attachment, a naked body is merely a lifeless sex toy.”
― Abhijit Naskar, The Bengal Tigress: A Treatise on Gender Equality

“Sexual intimacy is not the destination, it is the path - the path that leads to mental union.”
― Abhijit Naskar, Either Civilized or Phobic: A Treatise on Homosexuality

“Sex is not just about going in or letting in, it is really about welcoming your dearly beloved into the deepest regions of your psyche which are inaccessible to anybody else.”
― Abhijit Naskar, Either Civilized or Phobic: A Treatise on Homosexuality

“To a woman sexual intimacy is more a tool to get mentally close to her partner than merely a means to physical pleasure.”
― Abhijit Naskar, Either Civilized or Phobic: A Treatise on Homosexuality

“When you love yourself you will never need closure from any man. That doesn't mean you didn't love him, it simply means you love yourself enough to realize God has a better plan for you that doesn't involve one more conversation that will remind you of that person's lack of respect for you.”
― Shannon L. Alder

“Compatibility doesn't determine the fate of a marriage, how you deal with the incompatibilities, does.”
― Abhijit Naskar, Wise Mating: A Treatise on Monogamy

“The most crucial thing to know about true love is that, it is not something you can find, rather you need to build it with the person in whose eyes you see your soul.”
― Abhijit Naskar, The Bengal Tigress: A Treatise on Gender Equality

“Either one is promiscuous or in a relationship - it cannot be both at the same time.”
― Abhijit Naskar, Wise Mating: A Treatise on Monogamy

“It is not beauty that keeps a relationship alive, it is attachment. Without attachment, a naked body is merely a lifeless sex toy.”
― Abhijit Naskar, The Bengal Tigress: A Treatise on Gender Equality

“Beauty is irrelevant to human life, especially in a relationship. What you today perceive as beautiful and special, over time, becomes not so special. That’s how the human brain works. It is not beauty that keeps a relationship alive, it is attachment. Without attachment, a naked body is merely a lifeless sex toy.”
― Abhijit Naskar, The Bengal Tigress: A Treatise on Gender Equality

“A relationship is not just about sex – it is much more than that. Sex is only a tool in love, not love itself.”
― Abhijit Naskar, Wise Mating: A Treatise on Monogamy

“True love is born out of the pyre of two committed souls.”
― Abhijit Naskar, Wise Mating: A Treatise on Monogamy

“Sex becomes less and less pleasurable in a relationship over time. Your brain gets habituated to the sensual stimulation from your specific partner as you are exposed to it repeatedly. It doesn’t mean that the love is gone from the relationship. Love still exists beyond the barriers of time, in the form of attachment, which becomes independent of sexual intimacy after the euphoric stage of mad love.”
― Abhijit Naskar, What is Mind?

“Beauty is irrelevant to human life, especially in a relationship.”
― Abhijit Naskar, The Bengal Tigress: A Treatise on Gender Equality

“In relationships, everyone makes mistakes. If you are forgiven for yours, don't take it for granted.”
― Carlos Wallace, The Other 99 T.Y.M.E.S: Train Your Mind to Enjoy Serenity

“The poorest man you can marry is not the one who lacks money, but the one who lacks character.”
― Matshona Dhliwayo

“Love is not the primeval surge of libidinal lust that a person receives when meeting a suitable partner for the first time. Love in the truest sense of the term is born much later in a relationship, when both sides get to the know the truest selves of each other.”
― Abhijit Naskar, The Bengal Tigress: A Treatise on Gender Equality

“Let’s talk about mankind’s most adored emotion – Love. However, love itself is not a single emotion, rather a blend of many. It is such an enchanting sensation, that it has been inspiring artists, scientists, philosophers and thinkers for ages. Albert Einstein said, “any man who can drive safely while kissing a pretty girl is simply not giving the kiss the attention it deserves”. Geniuses around the world came up with various creations under the spell of love. Schrodinger’s Wave Equation, Hawking’s Hawking Radiation, Tagore’s songs, Rumi’s poems, are just a few among the plethora of scientific and philosophical literature created under the enigmatic and warm influence of love. So, technically it is totally worth being crazy in love.”
― Abhijit Naskar, What is Mind?

“There is a natural magic in the feeling of love that has been nourished by Mother Nature through millions of years. It can make you reach the zenith of your true potential. It can awaken your mind towards your deepest powers, and make you endowed with tools of greatness that you can never access in an ordinary state of mind.”
― Abhijit Naskar, Love, God & Neurons: Memoir of a scientist who found himself by getting lost

“At that very first kiss of my life I felt something melt inside me that hurt in an exquisite way. All my longings, all my dreams and sweet anguish, all the secrets that slept deep within my limbic brain came awake. I felt billions of Beach Boys playing their sweet melody inside my heart in perfect harmony with the universe.”
― Abhijit Naskar, Love, God & Neurons: Memoir of a scientist who found himself by getting lost

“In a relationship, prudent application of the gray theory is a key ingredient in assuring years of happiness; “till death do us part”. Balance is at the center of success, satisfaction and a lifetime of love.”
― Carlos Wallace, The Other 99 T.Y.M.E.S: Train Your Mind to Enjoy Serenity

“It is more likely that a man and a woman develop romantic feelings for each other when they start dating after they have been friends for some time and feel already attracted to each other, than when they are total strangers trying to make it happen.”
― Linda Alfiori, The Art of Loving Intelligently:Discover the Five Love Myths Hurting Women in America

“Sex is only a tool in love, not love itself.”
― Abhijit Naskar, Wise Mating: A Treatise on Monogamy

“Polygamy is about sex, whereas monogamy is about love.”
― Abhijit Naskar, Wise Mating: A Treatise on Monogamy

“First law of pleasurable love-making in the long run, is that you don't keep naked pictures of your partner on your phone.”
― Abhijit Naskar

“Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, not the mirror.”
― Matshona Dhliwayo

“I have tried to find a configuration of comfort for you. A word, a sentence, a paragraph that would make you feel better, validated, vindicated, justified in your needs and wants. (...) You are not alone in this need for more, or in falling prey to the sway of expectation. Every person the world over has a ideal. These quintessential assumptions affect every relationship we cultivate, be it family, friendships or even romantic bonds. The truth of the matter is that we cannot hold people to our pie-in-the-sky notions.”
― Tamara Thiel, Random Musings of a Curious Soul