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Heavier Than Heaven: A Biography of Kurt Cobain
The art of Nirvana's Kurt Cobain was all about his private life, but written in a code as obscure as T.S. Eliot's. Now Charles Cross has cracked the code in the definitive biography Heavier Than Heaven, an all-access pass to Cobain's heart and mind. It reveals many secrets, thanks to 400-plus interviews, and even quotes Cobain's diaries and suicide notes and reveals an unreleased Nirvana masterpiece. At last we know how he created, how lies helped him die, how his family and love life entwined his art--plus, what the heck "Smells Like Teen Spirit" really means. (It was graffiti by Bikini Kill's Kathleen Hanna after a double date with Dave Grohl, Cobain, and the "over-bored and self-assured" Tobi Vail, who wore Teen Spirit perfume; Hanna wrote it to taunt the emotionally clingy Cobain for wearing Vail's scent after sex--a violation of the no-strings-attached dating ethos of the Olympia, Washington, "outcast teen" underground. Cobain's stomach-churning passion for Vail erupted in six or so hit tunes like "Aneurysm" and "Drain You.")
Cross uncovers plenty of news, mostly grim and gripping. As a teen, Cobain said he had "suicide genes," and his clan was peculiarly defiant: one of his suicidal relatives stabbed his own belly in front of his family, then ripped apart the wound in the hospital. Cobain was contradictory: a sweet, popular teen athlete and sinister berserker, a kid who rescued injured pigeons and laughingly killed a cat, a talented yet astoundingly morbid visual artist. He grew up to be a millionaire who slept in cars (and stole one), a fiercely loyal man who ruthlessly screwed his oldest, best friends. In fact, his essence was contradictions barely contained. Cross, the coauthor of Nevermind: Nirvana, the definitive book about the making of the classic album, puts numerous Cobain-generated myths to rest. (Cobain never lived under a bridge--that Aberdeen bridge immortalized in the 12th song on Nevermind was a tidal slough, so nobody could sleep under it.) He gives the fullest account yet of what it was like to be, or love, Kurt Cobain. Heavier Than Heaven outshines the also indispensable Come As You Are. It's the deepest book about pop's darkest falling star. --Tim Appelo
381 pages, Hardcover
First published January 1, 2001
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Charles R. Cross
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Charles R. Cross
This is Charles R. Cross, a rock music journalist and author based in Seattle. He is the founder of Backstreets magazine, a periodical for fans of Bruce Springsteen, editor of "Springsteen: the Man and His Music," a compilation of Backstreets articles, and is also author of a biography of Kurt Cobain, titled Heavier Than Heaven. His most recent release is entitled Room Full Of Mirrors - A Biography Of Jimi Hendrix.
In 2004, while conducting research for the Hendrix book, Cross rediscovered the gravesite of Jimi Hendrix's mother, Lucille Jeter Hendrix, in an abandoned section of Greenwood Memorial Park, where Jimi Hendrix himself is buried in an elaborate granite memorial. The gravesite of Lucille Hendrix was lost because the standard welfare marker of her day, an inscribed brick, became buried in decades of mud from the area's notorious heavy rains. Cross delivered a moving eulogy for Lucille when a proper headstone was dedicated at the site.
Courtney Love, the widow of Kurt Cobain, has acquired the rights to Heavier Than Heaven, which is now being made into a film by Universal Pictures. This is the first film to be made from Cross' work.
See also:
Charles R. Cross
This is Charles R. Cross, a rock music journalist and author based in Seattle. He is the founder of Backstreets magazine, a periodical for fans of Bruce Springsteen, editor of "Springsteen: the Man and His Music," a compilation of Backstreets articles, and is also author of a biography of Kurt Cobain, titled Heavier Than Heaven. His most recent release is entitled Room Full Of Mirrors - A Biography Of Jimi Hendrix.
In 2004, while conducting research for the Hendrix book, Cross rediscovered the gravesite of Jimi Hendrix's mother, Lucille Jeter Hendrix, in an abandoned section of Greenwood Memorial Park, where Jimi Hendrix himself is buried in an elaborate granite memorial. The gravesite of Lucille Hendrix was lost because the standard welfare marker of her day, an inscribed brick, became buried in decades of mud from the area's notorious heavy rains. Cross delivered a moving eulogy for Lucille when a proper headstone was dedicated at the site.
Courtney Love, the widow of Kurt Cobain, has acquired the rights to Heavier Than Heaven, which is now being made into a film by Universal Pictures. This is the first film to be made from Cross' work.
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Kurt Cobain once said: 'Nobody dies a virgin... life fucks us all.' He also said 'If you're a sexist, racist, homophobe, or basically an asshole, don't buy this CD. I don't care if you like me, I hate you.'
Everyone's heard of Kurt Cobain and Nirvana. Even if you haven't listened to their music, you've likely seen the smiley face t-shirts that young people still wear today, more than thirty years after Kurt's passing. I'll begin this review by jumping straight into the drama.
I'm not sure how to feel about this book. It's a good read, but certain parts bothered me. Some Nirvana fans dislike this book because they claim it's been approved by Courtney Love, which means it's dishonest. Oh, well, whatever, never mind. As some reviewers have noted, the author took certain liberties that he probably shouldn't have. For example, he writes about Kurt's thoughts during his final moments, which is highly unethical. We can't possibly know what Kurt was thinking because he's no longer with us. It's impossible to accurately depict his final thoughts since he didn't share them with us. This is a common issue in true crime as well. Some podcasters and YouTubers will narrate a murder story and then describe the victim's thoughts and emotions. But how can anyone truly know the victim's final thoughts if they are no longer alive? Have some morals, for crying out loud.
Life
I'll talk about Courtney Love and the conspiracy theories related to Kurt's death, but before that, let me share some details about Kurt. He was born on February 20, 1967, in Aberdeen, Washington, a small logging town at the base of the Olympic Peninsula. According to Kurt himself, he didn't enjoy living there. He mentioned that he had a happy childhood until his parents divorced when he was nine. His relationship with his parents was tense and challenging, leading to a tumultuous adolescence. Kurt's father was strict and would resort to corporal punishment whenever he felt Kurt was misbehaving. It seems like Kurt longed for a more emotional connection with his father, which might explain why he harbored resentment towards him even as he grew older.
Kurt was full of energy (possibly due to undiagnosed ADHD) and was prescribed Ritalin at the young age of seven. A controversial choice, but hey, it was the early 70s. Scientists believe that Ritalin may trigger a Pavlovian response in children and raise the risk of addiction in the future, as was the case with Kurt.
In high school, Kurt started playing music with his friend Krist Novoselic. Krist, born in Compton, California, to Croatian immigrant parents, moved to Aberdeen as a teenager, where he crossed paths with Kurt. After high school, Kurt struggled to figure out his path, taking odd jobs and experiencing homelessness, crashing on friends' couches. It was finally time to say goodbye to Aberdeen for good. Moving to Olympia, the capital of Washington, brought him freedom and contentment. Olympia was a hub for young artists at the time. His girlfriend, Tracy Marander, provided him with emotional and financial support. She was the inspiration behind his song About a Girl.
Kurt and Krist started jamming more often and soon became an established band. Nirvana's debut studio album, Bleach, was released in 1989, but it was their second album, Nevermind, released in 1991, that catapulted them to fame and solidified Kurt Cobain as a cultural icon. Although Nirvana had multiple drummers, it was with Dave Grohl that they achieved their greatest success (Dave Grohl, a music legend in his own right, formed Foo Fighters after Kurt's passing).
Nirvana's rise to fame shone a spotlight on the Seattle music scene, putting an end to hair metal and sparking a new fashion trend. Teenagers were tired of listening to the same repetitive songs about girls, sex, and wild parties. They were tuning in to the raw lyrics of Pacific Northwest bands addressing themes like depression, struggle, and social problems. Nirvana, Pearl Jam, Alice in Chains, and Soundgarden were hailed as the Big Four.
Love
Now we come to the unavoidable. Courtney Love. Some view her as a feminist icon and a rock legend, while others see her as the Wicked Witch of the Pacific Northwest who manipulated Kurt and then killed him. Kurt and the singer and guitarist of the rock band Hole crossed paths in 1990 and immediately became obsessed with each other. They got married in 1992 and welcomed a daughter, Frances Bean Cobain, that same year. It was not a healthy relationship. They argued and used heroin together, and there were rumors that she was unfaithful to him. The book doesn't reveal the whole truth about their relationship.
I understand why some people believe the author is friends with Courtney, as he made a strong effort to steer clear of controversial topics. Many speculate that Courtney was responsible for the deaths of not only Kurt but also her bass player, Kristen Plaff, and El Duce. El Duce claimed in the 1998 documentary "Kurt & Courtney" that Courtney offered him money to kill Kurt. He was hit by a train eight days after the interview, leading to suspicions that Courtney silenced him. It's quite a tale, but seriously, can we really trust someone named El Duce? Am I supposed to believe that Courtney Love is a diabolical mastermind who orchestrates murders and stages them as accidents, successfully evading justice? Is she also a time traveler and the real assassin of President Kennedy?
Do I think Courtney Love is a good person and a feminist? No. She has terrorized many people and assaulted women whom she perceived as threats. Do I think she's the female Ted Bundy? No. Do I think she killed Kurt? No. Is Kurt's death suspicious? Yes.
Death
Kurt's lifeless body was discovered by an electrician in the greenhouse of his Seattle home on April 8th. He passed away on April 5th, but his body went unnoticed for three days. Kurt was expected to be undergoing rehab, but he fled the clinic and returned to Seattle. His death was attributed to a self-inflicted gunshot wound to the head. The book's author failed to address any of the peculiar circumstances surrounding his demise.
Many people believe Kurt was murdered because he had three times the lethal dose of heroin in his system, making it impossible for him to shoot himself. The scene of death was contaminated and the case was not thoroughly investigated. Tom Grant, a former detective and private investigator hired by Courtney Love to locate Kurt after he went missing from the rehab center, still claims Courtney Love killed Kurt. He has a lot of information about this case, which can be found online. He also made a documentary called Soaked in Bleach and appeared in the documentary Kurt & Courtney, so if you're interested, you can check those out.
I don't think Courtney killed Kurt. I simply wanted to bring attention to the details that the author chose to omit in the book. Kurt's closest friends believe he took his own life, and they have no reason to defend Courtney as they do not have a good relationship with her. Kurt was a troubled and sensitive individual, and it's possible that he couldn't cope with his depression any longer. However, there are some strange aspects surrounding his death that are difficult to overlook. Regardless of what truly happened, Kurt is no longer with us. He was only 27 when he died. Kurt's impact on the world was comparable to that of John Lennon. Just like Lennon, he was considered the voice of his generation. His daughter Frances was primarily raised by his mother Wendy due to Courtney's struggles with substance abuse. Frances appears to be a well-adjusted young woman and a talented artist. She shares her father's passion for painting.
I'll end this review with my favorite Nirvana lyric. Give me a Leonard Cohen afterworld, so I can sigh eternally.
But for Kurt, it didn’t matter that other people loved him; he simply didn’t love himself enough.
Everyone's heard of Kurt Cobain and Nirvana. Even if you haven't listened to their music, you've likely seen the smiley face t-shirts that young people still wear today, more than thirty years after Kurt's passing. I'll begin this review by jumping straight into the drama.
I'm not sure how to feel about this book. It's a good read, but certain parts bothered me. Some Nirvana fans dislike this book because they claim it's been approved by Courtney Love, which means it's dishonest. Oh, well, whatever, never mind. As some reviewers have noted, the author took certain liberties that he probably shouldn't have. For example, he writes about Kurt's thoughts during his final moments, which is highly unethical. We can't possibly know what Kurt was thinking because he's no longer with us. It's impossible to accurately depict his final thoughts since he didn't share them with us. This is a common issue in true crime as well. Some podcasters and YouTubers will narrate a murder story and then describe the victim's thoughts and emotions. But how can anyone truly know the victim's final thoughts if they are no longer alive? Have some morals, for crying out loud.
Life
I'll talk about Courtney Love and the conspiracy theories related to Kurt's death, but before that, let me share some details about Kurt. He was born on February 20, 1967, in Aberdeen, Washington, a small logging town at the base of the Olympic Peninsula. According to Kurt himself, he didn't enjoy living there. He mentioned that he had a happy childhood until his parents divorced when he was nine. His relationship with his parents was tense and challenging, leading to a tumultuous adolescence. Kurt's father was strict and would resort to corporal punishment whenever he felt Kurt was misbehaving. It seems like Kurt longed for a more emotional connection with his father, which might explain why he harbored resentment towards him even as he grew older.
Kurt was full of energy (possibly due to undiagnosed ADHD) and was prescribed Ritalin at the young age of seven. A controversial choice, but hey, it was the early 70s. Scientists believe that Ritalin may trigger a Pavlovian response in children and raise the risk of addiction in the future, as was the case with Kurt.
In high school, Kurt started playing music with his friend Krist Novoselic. Krist, born in Compton, California, to Croatian immigrant parents, moved to Aberdeen as a teenager, where he crossed paths with Kurt. After high school, Kurt struggled to figure out his path, taking odd jobs and experiencing homelessness, crashing on friends' couches. It was finally time to say goodbye to Aberdeen for good. Moving to Olympia, the capital of Washington, brought him freedom and contentment. Olympia was a hub for young artists at the time. His girlfriend, Tracy Marander, provided him with emotional and financial support. She was the inspiration behind his song About a Girl.
Kurt and Krist started jamming more often and soon became an established band. Nirvana's debut studio album, Bleach, was released in 1989, but it was their second album, Nevermind, released in 1991, that catapulted them to fame and solidified Kurt Cobain as a cultural icon. Although Nirvana had multiple drummers, it was with Dave Grohl that they achieved their greatest success (Dave Grohl, a music legend in his own right, formed Foo Fighters after Kurt's passing).
Nirvana's rise to fame shone a spotlight on the Seattle music scene, putting an end to hair metal and sparking a new fashion trend. Teenagers were tired of listening to the same repetitive songs about girls, sex, and wild parties. They were tuning in to the raw lyrics of Pacific Northwest bands addressing themes like depression, struggle, and social problems. Nirvana, Pearl Jam, Alice in Chains, and Soundgarden were hailed as the Big Four.
Love
Now we come to the unavoidable. Courtney Love. Some view her as a feminist icon and a rock legend, while others see her as the Wicked Witch of the Pacific Northwest who manipulated Kurt and then killed him. Kurt and the singer and guitarist of the rock band Hole crossed paths in 1990 and immediately became obsessed with each other. They got married in 1992 and welcomed a daughter, Frances Bean Cobain, that same year. It was not a healthy relationship. They argued and used heroin together, and there were rumors that she was unfaithful to him. The book doesn't reveal the whole truth about their relationship.
I understand why some people believe the author is friends with Courtney, as he made a strong effort to steer clear of controversial topics. Many speculate that Courtney was responsible for the deaths of not only Kurt but also her bass player, Kristen Plaff, and El Duce. El Duce claimed in the 1998 documentary "Kurt & Courtney" that Courtney offered him money to kill Kurt. He was hit by a train eight days after the interview, leading to suspicions that Courtney silenced him. It's quite a tale, but seriously, can we really trust someone named El Duce? Am I supposed to believe that Courtney Love is a diabolical mastermind who orchestrates murders and stages them as accidents, successfully evading justice? Is she also a time traveler and the real assassin of President Kennedy?
Do I think Courtney Love is a good person and a feminist? No. She has terrorized many people and assaulted women whom she perceived as threats. Do I think she's the female Ted Bundy? No. Do I think she killed Kurt? No. Is Kurt's death suspicious? Yes.
Death
Kurt's lifeless body was discovered by an electrician in the greenhouse of his Seattle home on April 8th. He passed away on April 5th, but his body went unnoticed for three days. Kurt was expected to be undergoing rehab, but he fled the clinic and returned to Seattle. His death was attributed to a self-inflicted gunshot wound to the head. The book's author failed to address any of the peculiar circumstances surrounding his demise.
Many people believe Kurt was murdered because he had three times the lethal dose of heroin in his system, making it impossible for him to shoot himself. The scene of death was contaminated and the case was not thoroughly investigated. Tom Grant, a former detective and private investigator hired by Courtney Love to locate Kurt after he went missing from the rehab center, still claims Courtney Love killed Kurt. He has a lot of information about this case, which can be found online. He also made a documentary called Soaked in Bleach and appeared in the documentary Kurt & Courtney, so if you're interested, you can check those out.
I don't think Courtney killed Kurt. I simply wanted to bring attention to the details that the author chose to omit in the book. Kurt's closest friends believe he took his own life, and they have no reason to defend Courtney as they do not have a good relationship with her. Kurt was a troubled and sensitive individual, and it's possible that he couldn't cope with his depression any longer. However, there are some strange aspects surrounding his death that are difficult to overlook. Regardless of what truly happened, Kurt is no longer with us. He was only 27 when he died. Kurt's impact on the world was comparable to that of John Lennon. Just like Lennon, he was considered the voice of his generation. His daughter Frances was primarily raised by his mother Wendy due to Courtney's struggles with substance abuse. Frances appears to be a well-adjusted young woman and a talented artist. She shares her father's passion for painting.
I'll end this review with my favorite Nirvana lyric. Give me a Leonard Cohen afterworld, so I can sigh eternally.
But for Kurt, it didn’t matter that other people loved him; he simply didn’t love himself enough.
Shelved as 'dnf'
April 1, 2017DNF @ 27%
First of all, ANA...
I know Kurt is your spiritual animal homie and soul mate...so please don't slay me for abandoning and not loving this thing...
But, quite frankly, this book is portraying Kurt as a bit of a whiny liar to me...and after my tragic experience with THIS Red Hot Chili Peppers book - and my subsequent inability to listen to anymore of their music after attempting to read it - I don't want to risk disliking Kurt and not being able to listen to my favorite Nirvana songs.
I would rather maintain my love for their music than risk it by finishing this book...
Sorry!
First of all, ANA...
I know Kurt is your spiritual animal homie and soul mate...so please don't slay me for abandoning and not loving this thing...
But, quite frankly, this book is portraying Kurt as a bit of a whiny liar to me...and after my tragic experience with THIS Red Hot Chili Peppers book - and my subsequent inability to listen to anymore of their music after attempting to read it - I don't want to risk disliking Kurt and not being able to listen to my favorite Nirvana songs.
I would rather maintain my love for their music than risk it by finishing this book...
Sorry!
August 3, 2007
I just noticed the average rating for this book was 4 stars. Yuck. The author does a decent job putting together Kurt Cobains' life and rise to fame. In the last chapters he takes "creative license" in describing Kurts' last moments, all the way to his suicide. It's disgusting. No one was there (that we know of). He has no right.
December 16, 2008
This booked disturbed me a bit. I know everyone wants to rape the corpse of Cobain but not me and admitting this is embarrassing but hey, we're all friends here. Reading it I saw a lot of myself in Kurt Cobain and it worried me. Am I going to blow my brains out? I certainly hope not. Maybe I related to him in the way that a lot of people did. Maybe he's just a common guy who was thrown into something bigger than him. At any rate Charles Cross really did his research and created a book that I ate like chocolate cake. Sad.
March 26, 2014
I saw Nirvana in concert 4 months before Cobain took his life. After hundreds of live shows it still stands as one of my all time favorites. In fact it was the first concert I ever crowd-surfed at. I was able to get up close and personal with the band and, in doing so, saw that Kurt rarely looked up at the crowd. His eyes were glued to the floor most of the night. This book helped me to understand why. Given his recurrent heroin addiction, the debilitating stomach pain he'd fought for years, the constant fighting with Courtney, and his unhappiness with fame I can imagine that Kurt felt a pretty heavy burden on his shoulders during those years.
That being said I feel like Kurt's style of thinking only contributed to his misery. This book isn't just a treatise on the life of Cobain. It is a psychological profile of Kurt Cobain; lifting the hood over the engine and taking a look at all the rusty gears and the worn out spark plugs. Cross does an amazing job of truly understanding the way Cobain thought. As much as I idolized Kurt for most of my teenage and college years I now see that Cobain's style of thinking was as someone who saw himself as an innocent victim and he tended to be a bit paranoid. While many American kids experience the divorce of their parents most are able to put it in context at some point in their lives. Cobain never got over his parents divorce and saw his father's subsequent marriage as a betrayal; that dad was kicking Kurt out of his life. I'm sure that losing this relationship was sad but most of us would be able to develop enough understanding to move past it. For Kurt this sadness simply shifted in to anger and pushing his father away. This was the start of a "victim mentality" that never seemed to go away. I see Kurt's victimhood as his biggest failing and something that set the stage for later victimhood.
Ultimately, I developed a love/hate relationship with this book. While it was impeccably researched and extremely intriguing I felt really sad by the time I finished it. I developed a lot of empathy for Kurt throughout the reading and was devastated by the end of the book to think of all of that amazing talent wasted through suicide. Very sad indeed.
That being said I feel like Kurt's style of thinking only contributed to his misery. This book isn't just a treatise on the life of Cobain. It is a psychological profile of Kurt Cobain; lifting the hood over the engine and taking a look at all the rusty gears and the worn out spark plugs. Cross does an amazing job of truly understanding the way Cobain thought. As much as I idolized Kurt for most of my teenage and college years I now see that Cobain's style of thinking was as someone who saw himself as an innocent victim and he tended to be a bit paranoid. While many American kids experience the divorce of their parents most are able to put it in context at some point in their lives. Cobain never got over his parents divorce and saw his father's subsequent marriage as a betrayal; that dad was kicking Kurt out of his life. I'm sure that losing this relationship was sad but most of us would be able to develop enough understanding to move past it. For Kurt this sadness simply shifted in to anger and pushing his father away. This was the start of a "victim mentality" that never seemed to go away. I see Kurt's victimhood as his biggest failing and something that set the stage for later victimhood.
Ultimately, I developed a love/hate relationship with this book. While it was impeccably researched and extremely intriguing I felt really sad by the time I finished it. I developed a lot of empathy for Kurt throughout the reading and was devastated by the end of the book to think of all of that amazing talent wasted through suicide. Very sad indeed.
March 21, 2019
Originally published in 2001 and with a well-written update added to bring it up to date, this is a well-researched book by an author who was around for many of the events at the time. Charles Cross spent 4 years researching, and interviewing 400 people for this book. So you can tell it’s pretty thorough. He tells us how Cobain’s time being famous, from his first album coming out to his death was less than 1000 days. That’s pretty heart-rending to think about. It does a good job of filling out the picture from his beginnings in Aberdeen through growing up and finding success. A lot of focus on his songwriting and touring, practices and time spent making albums. Meeting and marrying Courtney Love and becoming a father. And of course, you know how the story ends, yet it still grabs you. This is a really good book for Nirvana fans. My thanks for the advance electronic copy that was provided by NetGalley, author Charles R Cross, and the publisher for my fair review.
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December 29, 2021
4 Stars for Heavier than Heaven (audiobook) by Charles R. Cross read by Lloyd James.
This was a sadly insightful story about the tragic life of Kurt Cobain. The author chose to not place any blame on the friends or family around Cobain. And really I don’t know what anyone could have done to save him. Sadly the outcome seemed inevitable.
This was a sadly insightful story about the tragic life of Kurt Cobain. The author chose to not place any blame on the friends or family around Cobain. And really I don’t know what anyone could have done to save him. Sadly the outcome seemed inevitable.
January 5, 2010
this book is almost equal parts fiction and Courtney Love approved versions of "actual events." it gives some information, but it should be taken with a grain of salt. there are TONS of proven historical errors. i don't blame the author for the misinformation, however, as he had to have everything cleared by Courtney Love. he did lose his credibility, though. i can't believe they used him on "busted circuits and ringing ears: the TAD story" dvd that came out a year ago.
if you are a Nirvana fan, you should probably read this to get what little insight you can. but, if you have any doubts as to HOW Kurt died, you will notice how many errors there are in the telling of this story. Cross takes a LOT of liberties in describing Kurt's final moments. as a guy who doesn't quite buy the "Kurt killed himself by shooting himself in the head after he took a LEATHAL dose of heroin and THEN somehow managed to put all of his paraphernalia away in it's box, THEN take the shotgun, (that had NO fingerprints on it) put it in his mouth and pull the trigger," story, i can't help but feel like this book makes me feel like i'm being lied to.
if you are a Nirvana fan, you should probably read this to get what little insight you can. but, if you have any doubts as to HOW Kurt died, you will notice how many errors there are in the telling of this story. Cross takes a LOT of liberties in describing Kurt's final moments. as a guy who doesn't quite buy the "Kurt killed himself by shooting himself in the head after he took a LEATHAL dose of heroin and THEN somehow managed to put all of his paraphernalia away in it's box, THEN take the shotgun, (that had NO fingerprints on it) put it in his mouth and pull the trigger," story, i can't help but feel like this book makes me feel like i'm being lied to.
April 16, 2018
Charles R. Cross's Heavier Than Heaven isn't just one of my favourite biographies; it's one of my favourite books. A few years ago, when I had my own music blog, I had the incredible opportunity to interview Cross. I thought I would include that piece here as a tribute to this wonderful book about one of music's most iconic and dearly missed figures.
Seattle is a place I have been obsessed with from an early age. Cameron Crowe’s 1992 film Singles (and its incredible soundtrack) is partly to blame for this. The Washington city is famous for many things: its coffee, its rainy weather, the Space Needle, the Experience Music Project, and Science Fiction Museum and Hall of Fame. Seattle is also noted for its famous people- the city is the motherland of the famous computer wizard and Chairman of Microsoft Corporation, Bill Gates, the birthplace of rock legend Jimi Hendrix and the last place the late Nirvana frontman, Kurt Cobain, called home.
I finally got to visit Seattle in the summer of 2007. I was visiting my college friends in Vancouver and we planned a weekend roadtrip to take in “Rain City”. One of our first stops when we arrived was the Experience Music Project (EMP), a museum in Seattle dedicated to the history and exploration of popular music. EMP is especially famous for its permanent exhibition, the Northwest Passage, which is dedicated to the history of music in the Pacific Northwest, including bands from the grunge music genre, and the life and work of Jimi Hendrix. EMP has also held various exhibitions on other popular music acts, including Bruce Springsteen, Bob Dylan, The Beatles and Kurt Cobain. The museum is also famous for its Guitar Gallery, dedicated to the history of the guitar, and its massive sculpture entitled Roots and Branches, made largely out of musical instruments, especially guitars. It was such a great experience to get to see EMP and learn all about the history of Seattle music. The part of me and my friends’ trip that excited me the most, however, was getting to see the house that stands at 171 Lake Washington Boulevard E., the house where, on 5th April 1994, Kurt Cobain would take his own life.
There is a kind of morbid curiosity in seeking out Cobain's former house in the Denny-Blaine district of Seattle. It’s not just about being in the place where Cobain lived but also being in the place where he died. My friends and I knew only the address, driving up and down Lake Washington Blvd. E. for over twenty minutes before we found it. The large house sits on a blind corner on a winding road, lying just up the hill from the Western shore of Lake Washington. It is situated almost directly across the lake from the $100 million house later built by the aforementioned Bill Gates. Standing outside the front gate of the mansion, it was hard not to marvel at how far Cobain had come before his death, from his humble beginnings in the small logging town of Aberdeen in Washington. When I visited Seattle, the infamous greenhouse where Cobain had died was long gone. It was demolished in 1996, a year before Cobain’s wife, Hole frontwoman Courtney Love, sold the house. She was quoted as saying that the constant stream of distraught fans was too much for her to handle and that the building had become "bigger than the Space Needle." On the day that I stood outside Cobain’s former home, things were much quieter. Love sold the house to new owners in 1997 when she and Cobain’s daughter, Frances Bean, moved to Beverly Hills in California. The new owners have done all they can to enforce what little privacy they have in the former home of someone so famous. They have fenced and landscaped the property, as well as adding a security gate with an electronic call box, which is much more common in the Hollywood Hills than in Seattle's Denny-Blaine. Security cameras are mounted at various points on the exterior of the house, which makes it quite impossible to get anything other than a limited view of the house. Believe me- I tried. Even climbing a tree in the neighbouring Viletta Park (or “Kurt’s Park” as it’s more commonly called) didn’t help a huge amount.
Though he was gone thirteen years when I visited his former home, Cobain’s legacy is still very much there. Viletta Park’s two benches are covered with the graffiti from fans who have visited the site in the years since Cobain’s death. The comments are an incredible read; some are words of love and respect, some words of anger from young people who feel huge loss and loneliness as a result of Cobain’s death. Some fans have left Nirvana lyrics, poetry and even verbal abuse regarding Cobain’s wife. There were also remnants of colourful wax from someone having burned candles at the time I visited. It was in this park that Love talked to the throngs of fans that gathered immediately after Cobain’s death. It felt both strange and surreal to be at Cobain’s former home, to sit in Viletta Park and be just inches from the gate through which his body was carried out just thirteen years previous. My trip to Seattle wouldn’t have been the same without that experience, without seeing the last place that Cobain called home.
Seattle is the birthplace of the music style known as “grunge”, which was made famous by Nirvana, as well as local bands such as Soundgarden, Alice in Chains and Pearl Jam, hence the term “Seattle Sound”. Since the grunge era, Seattle is a vibrant hub of American music, hosting a diverse and influential music scene which many influential bands, labels and music venues call home. The record label Sub Pop- the first to sign Nirvana and Soundgarden- is also based in Seattle. One person who is particularly familiar with the city’s rich music history is music journalist and author Charles R. Cross.
Charles R. Cross was born in Virginia, where he spent much of his childhood. When his father became a professor of psychology, the family travelled to a variety of university towns, including Richmond, New York, Connecticut and lastly Washington, where Cross attended high school. He later graduated from the University of Washington in Seattle with a degree in Creative Writing. While in university, he served as Editor of the Daily in 1979, and caused a whole lot of ruckus when he left the front page of the newspaper blank. The only type was a small line that read “The White Issue,” in deference to the Beatles’ White album.
After college, Cross served as Editor of The Rocket, the Northwest’s music and entertainment magazine, from 1986 through 2000. The Rocket was hailed as “the best regional music magazine in the nation” by the L.A. Reader. Cross wrote stories on such seminal Northwest bands as the Sonics, the Wailers, Jimi Hendrix, Nirvana, Pearl Jam, Soundgarden, Alice In Chains, the Screaming Trees, and hundreds, if not thousands, of lesser known bands. In addition to The Rocket, Cross’s writing has appeared in hundreds of magazines including Rolling Stone, Esquire, Playboy, Spin, Guitar World, Q, Mojo, Salon, Spy, Uncut, NME, Request, No Depression, Revolver, Ray Gun, Creem, and Trouser Press. He has written for many newspapers and alternative weeklies including the London Times, the Los Angeles Times, the Oregonian, the Seattle Times, the Seattle Post-Intelligencer, and Seattle Weekly. He has lectured and read at universities and colleges around the world, and has frequently been interviewed for film, radio, and television documentaries including VH1’s “Behind the Music.”
Cross is the author of seven books, including the New York Times bestseller Heavier Than Heaven, 2005’s Room Full of Mirrors: A Biography of Jimi Hendrix, the revealing Cobain Unseen and his most recent release, Led Zeppelin: Shadows Taller Than Our Souls. Cross is also Associate Editor of Backstreets Magazine, an internationally circulated quarterly that focuses on Bruce Springsteen and related Jersey Shore artists, which he also founded in 1980.
Cross’s interest in music stemmed from a very early age, taking in a range of music genres or, as he himself says, “everything that was around at the time”. Asked what he listened to in particular, he named Bob Dylan, the Beatles, Carole King, James Taylor, the Rolling Stones and Bruce Springsteen as the acts that had the most influence on him growing up. Being a huge fan of rock, Seattle was immediately a place Cross felt comfortable. In one of his many articles that he wrote for the Seattle Times, Cross wrote "Seattle has always had more of an appetite for hard rock than other cities". When I questioned him on this he stated that this was because “it's a blue-collar town with shipyards and Boeing plants- that kinda blue-collar fan has always liked to rock”. In particular, writing about Northwestern bands has always been hugely important to Cross. Since he first began writing, he has been compelled to write about the bands that he truly loves. When I asked him who were his favourite bands to write about or interview, he answered: “Well, Soundgarden, Pearl Jam and Nirvana, definitely, but I also loved the Walkabouts, the Screaming Trees, and other underrated bands”.
Another thing that Cross has always been interested in is biography, especially writing about the lives of people in music. His biographies on Jimi Hendrix and Kurt Cobain provide true insight into the lives of both men, particularly the latter, which has been described as one of the most revealing and intimate accounts of one of music’s most influential figures. When I asked him what first drew him to this particular genre he replied: “I have always loved biography and reading things like the Charles Lindbergh biography by A. Scott Berg and Titan: The Life of John D. Rockefeller definitely influenced me. And of course Peter Guralnick's Elvis books...”
When I spoke to Cross, he was fresh from reviewing the Soundgarden reunion gig at the Showbox at the Market in Seattle for Rolling Stone magazine. When I asked Cross about the show, Soundgarden’s first since their break up in 1997, he said it was “exciting”. “There was a sense of spontaneity”, he added, “that suggested anything could happen”. Cross also commented that although it was a “great show”, it also made him feel “sad” that we will “never see a Nirvana reunion show”.
In the city that Cross calls home, it is impossible not to be reminded of the fact that Nirvana, one of the greatest and most influential bands the world has ever seen, are no more. As he stated in the opening chapter of Heavier Than Heaven, Cross lives less than a mile from Stan Baker Shooting Sports on Lake City Way, the store where the Nirvana singer and guitarist purchased the shotgun that was responsible for his death. I asked Cross if that was unsettling, to which he replied: “It can be creepy. I guess it can be both haunting and inspiring depending on the weather”. Regardless of the weather, Seattle is rife with reminders of Cobain and Nirvana, from the aforementioned Stan Baker’s and independent record label Sub Pop to the many music venues scattered around the city where the band played whilst trying to make it big.
Cross and Nirvana's path first intersected in 1989, when The Rocket, which Cross was editor of at the time, did the first cover story on Nirvana. Witnessing first-hand their transition from underground band to being one of, if not the, most famous bands of all time is something that very few people can boast about. When I asked him what his first impressions of the Nirvana were, Cross answered: “I liked them because of their pop side. I, like everyone else in Seattle, thought Mudhoney would be the bigger band at the start. I think one thing that’s important for people to remember is that early on the band were pretty darn ragged. They toured America five times before they became famous. I certainly had followed the band very closely and saw them live a number of times. I loved the early band stuff, was a big fan of the material from the beginning”. I also asked Cross about his first encounter with Cobain: “I was editor of The Rocket, which at the time was the music magazine in Seattle. Kurt had actually used our magazine on at least three different occasions advertising for a drummer. Every time Nirvana would lose a drummer, he’d come in the office and place an ad- ‘Band seeks drummer’. So, I knew him casually from the scene”.
It was clear Cross had much interaction with the Nirvana frontman during his rise to fame but I was eager to find out what kind of relationship he had with Cobain. “Even as his biographer and someone who knew Kurt, I wasn’t his best friend. And I was editor of a music magazine. We were always gonna have the kind of relationship where he was gonna be sort of suspicious. He clearly respected what I did. I had the benefit of a biographer of going through Kurt’s personal effects and things. He kept copies of my magazines and articles that I had done among his stuff. That, I guess, is the ultimate compliment that a music star could pay a journalist. So, I was respected in the world he was in”.
Cobain’s death in 1994 affected people all over the world and will continue to be remembered as one of the most devastating days in music history. Naturally, I asked Cross where he was at the moment he heard that Kurt Cobain's body had been found. “I was in my office at the Rocket. I knew before it went public; I was one of the first people to find out. I had contributed to a radio show here in Seattle and when the electrician who was working at Kurt's house found his body, that electrician's company called the radio station. I think the infamous words were, ‘You're gonna owe me some great Pink Floyd tickets for this news.’ That radio station called me before they went on air to see if they could confirm it because they knew I was sort of closer to that scene than they were. So, I remember hearing the news to this day. My reaction was, ‘No. It can't be Kurt.’ But at the same time, it's part of the denial. I knew it was him. Everyone in the Seattle scene knew he had struggles. I kept hoping that the body that was discovered would not be Kurt, that it would be mistaken and instead would be one of his drug-buddy friends. And of course, that wasn't the case.
It was heart-breaking to get the news, just like it was for everybody who was a Nirvana fan”.
While researching and writing his books on Cobain, Cross was given access to the Cobain estate, allowing him the opportunity to sift through intimate pictures and personal items, many of which he included in Cobain Unseen. I asked Cross about this experience. “Courtney controls the Kurt Cobain estate, which basically by an estate, is a bunch of stuff in a storage locker. But she trusted me. When I wrote my 2001 biography of Kurt, which pre-dated Cobain Unseen, she gave me access to his material. Cobain Unseen somewhat grew out of discussions around that book where I kept saying, ‘the stuff in Kurt’s locker is amazing stuff. You ought to let the world see it...he was an amazing artist.’ At one point she came to me and said, ‘OK. You can do the book.’ So, I was given access to the archives, with no parameters put on the use of Kurt’s stuff”. I also questioned Cross on whether it ever felt like he was delving too deep with his work, if he ever felt uncomfortable going though Cobain’s things, to which he replied: “There were things I left out. With every book, what you leave out is just as important as what you put in”.
In his journals, which were first printed in 2002, Cobain’s struggles were clear for anyone to see, or to read about rather. He battled with a chronic, undiagnosed stomach problem, he struggled with addiction and he was tormented by the demons of his past, particularly his parents’ divorce. He also battled constantly with the pressures of fame, the idea of being completely exposed and feeling like he was losing most of his privacy by moving further and further into the limelight. I was particularly interested in two contradictory statements Cobain wrote in his journals: "Don't read my diary when I'm gone" and "Please read my diary...Look through my things, and figure me out". I asked Cross which of these statements did he think was the most truthful and did he ever battle with the question of whether or not Cobain would have wanted his thoughts, words and drawings to be made available to the world. “I did, yes, but Kurt left his diaries out open on his coffee table so that said something to me. One of the more difficult things as a biographer was looking through Kurt’s journals and seeing how often he would write about his addiction and essentially beg God to please help him with it. He did not want to continue to suffer and basically wrote in his journals, ‘God, I will do anything. Please, please, please help me.’ Unfortunately, that help did not come”.
As well as writing about Cobain, Cross has written extensively on Jimi Hendrix. His book Room Full of Mirrors: A Biography of Jimi Hendrix provides an in-depth account of the life of the rock legend, capturing him perfectly. During his research for this book, which included interviewing over 325 people, Cross rediscovered the place where Hendrix’s mother, Lucille Jeter Hendrix, was buried which, oddly enough, lies only 40ft from where Hendrix himself now lies in Greenwood Memorial Park in Renton, Washington. The gravesite of Lucille Hendrix was lost because the standard welfare marker of her day, an inscribed brick, became buried in decades of mud from the area's notorious heavy rains. Cross delivered a moving eulogy for Lucille when a proper headstone was dedicated at the site. I asked Cross how it felt to uncover something so significant: “Eerie... My son was with me and he still talks about it and he was just a toddler at the time”.
Cobain and Hendrix had many things in common- they both were left-handed guitar players, both died at 27, had four-year musical careers and had battled drug addiction. They also both lived in Seattle, a city with one of the most notable music scenes in the world. I asked Cross if he felt enough had been done to honour both men in Seattle. “The answer is no. The city should honour them more. In the UK, they’ve got their blue plaques; we should have something like that here”.
The last thing I asked Cross was how he thought Kurt Cobain should be remembered, to which he replied: “Well, I think first and most importantly, he will be remembered for those songs. I think that's the reason we're talking about him still today. The quality of that songwriting I think will last and has lasted. That is ultimately the way I think he will be remembered. I think he will be remembered for creating this incredible body of work. The circumstances of his death and all those other things matter far less now sixteen years later. It's truly those songs and that music that is his legacy. Kurt was very unique and that’s the thing I think we miss now so long after his death. The great sadness is that we can’t hear that voice again. That’s the thing I miss. It’s sad for anyone who’s a fan of the music. Kurt was the biggest rock star in the world the year before he died. Sixteen years later, I’m not sure there is another rock star who is as enigmatic and compelling. He remains one of rock’s legendary figures. There has not been one single figure that I think ranks with Cobain since his death. That’s not to say there aren’t people putting out great records and there aren’t people that I love their music, but there’s nobody that combines that personal charisma, the musical quality and most importantly the songwriting genius that Kurt Cobain had. That’s the reason I think his legacy has endured”.
Charles R. Cross still lives in Seattle. He continues to write for numerous publications, both Seattle-based and beyond.
Seattle is a place I have been obsessed with from an early age. Cameron Crowe’s 1992 film Singles (and its incredible soundtrack) is partly to blame for this. The Washington city is famous for many things: its coffee, its rainy weather, the Space Needle, the Experience Music Project, and Science Fiction Museum and Hall of Fame. Seattle is also noted for its famous people- the city is the motherland of the famous computer wizard and Chairman of Microsoft Corporation, Bill Gates, the birthplace of rock legend Jimi Hendrix and the last place the late Nirvana frontman, Kurt Cobain, called home.
I finally got to visit Seattle in the summer of 2007. I was visiting my college friends in Vancouver and we planned a weekend roadtrip to take in “Rain City”. One of our first stops when we arrived was the Experience Music Project (EMP), a museum in Seattle dedicated to the history and exploration of popular music. EMP is especially famous for its permanent exhibition, the Northwest Passage, which is dedicated to the history of music in the Pacific Northwest, including bands from the grunge music genre, and the life and work of Jimi Hendrix. EMP has also held various exhibitions on other popular music acts, including Bruce Springsteen, Bob Dylan, The Beatles and Kurt Cobain. The museum is also famous for its Guitar Gallery, dedicated to the history of the guitar, and its massive sculpture entitled Roots and Branches, made largely out of musical instruments, especially guitars. It was such a great experience to get to see EMP and learn all about the history of Seattle music. The part of me and my friends’ trip that excited me the most, however, was getting to see the house that stands at 171 Lake Washington Boulevard E., the house where, on 5th April 1994, Kurt Cobain would take his own life.
There is a kind of morbid curiosity in seeking out Cobain's former house in the Denny-Blaine district of Seattle. It’s not just about being in the place where Cobain lived but also being in the place where he died. My friends and I knew only the address, driving up and down Lake Washington Blvd. E. for over twenty minutes before we found it. The large house sits on a blind corner on a winding road, lying just up the hill from the Western shore of Lake Washington. It is situated almost directly across the lake from the $100 million house later built by the aforementioned Bill Gates. Standing outside the front gate of the mansion, it was hard not to marvel at how far Cobain had come before his death, from his humble beginnings in the small logging town of Aberdeen in Washington. When I visited Seattle, the infamous greenhouse where Cobain had died was long gone. It was demolished in 1996, a year before Cobain’s wife, Hole frontwoman Courtney Love, sold the house. She was quoted as saying that the constant stream of distraught fans was too much for her to handle and that the building had become "bigger than the Space Needle." On the day that I stood outside Cobain’s former home, things were much quieter. Love sold the house to new owners in 1997 when she and Cobain’s daughter, Frances Bean, moved to Beverly Hills in California. The new owners have done all they can to enforce what little privacy they have in the former home of someone so famous. They have fenced and landscaped the property, as well as adding a security gate with an electronic call box, which is much more common in the Hollywood Hills than in Seattle's Denny-Blaine. Security cameras are mounted at various points on the exterior of the house, which makes it quite impossible to get anything other than a limited view of the house. Believe me- I tried. Even climbing a tree in the neighbouring Viletta Park (or “Kurt’s Park” as it’s more commonly called) didn’t help a huge amount.
Though he was gone thirteen years when I visited his former home, Cobain’s legacy is still very much there. Viletta Park’s two benches are covered with the graffiti from fans who have visited the site in the years since Cobain’s death. The comments are an incredible read; some are words of love and respect, some words of anger from young people who feel huge loss and loneliness as a result of Cobain’s death. Some fans have left Nirvana lyrics, poetry and even verbal abuse regarding Cobain’s wife. There were also remnants of colourful wax from someone having burned candles at the time I visited. It was in this park that Love talked to the throngs of fans that gathered immediately after Cobain’s death. It felt both strange and surreal to be at Cobain’s former home, to sit in Viletta Park and be just inches from the gate through which his body was carried out just thirteen years previous. My trip to Seattle wouldn’t have been the same without that experience, without seeing the last place that Cobain called home.
Seattle is the birthplace of the music style known as “grunge”, which was made famous by Nirvana, as well as local bands such as Soundgarden, Alice in Chains and Pearl Jam, hence the term “Seattle Sound”. Since the grunge era, Seattle is a vibrant hub of American music, hosting a diverse and influential music scene which many influential bands, labels and music venues call home. The record label Sub Pop- the first to sign Nirvana and Soundgarden- is also based in Seattle. One person who is particularly familiar with the city’s rich music history is music journalist and author Charles R. Cross.
Charles R. Cross was born in Virginia, where he spent much of his childhood. When his father became a professor of psychology, the family travelled to a variety of university towns, including Richmond, New York, Connecticut and lastly Washington, where Cross attended high school. He later graduated from the University of Washington in Seattle with a degree in Creative Writing. While in university, he served as Editor of the Daily in 1979, and caused a whole lot of ruckus when he left the front page of the newspaper blank. The only type was a small line that read “The White Issue,” in deference to the Beatles’ White album.
After college, Cross served as Editor of The Rocket, the Northwest’s music and entertainment magazine, from 1986 through 2000. The Rocket was hailed as “the best regional music magazine in the nation” by the L.A. Reader. Cross wrote stories on such seminal Northwest bands as the Sonics, the Wailers, Jimi Hendrix, Nirvana, Pearl Jam, Soundgarden, Alice In Chains, the Screaming Trees, and hundreds, if not thousands, of lesser known bands. In addition to The Rocket, Cross’s writing has appeared in hundreds of magazines including Rolling Stone, Esquire, Playboy, Spin, Guitar World, Q, Mojo, Salon, Spy, Uncut, NME, Request, No Depression, Revolver, Ray Gun, Creem, and Trouser Press. He has written for many newspapers and alternative weeklies including the London Times, the Los Angeles Times, the Oregonian, the Seattle Times, the Seattle Post-Intelligencer, and Seattle Weekly. He has lectured and read at universities and colleges around the world, and has frequently been interviewed for film, radio, and television documentaries including VH1’s “Behind the Music.”
Cross is the author of seven books, including the New York Times bestseller Heavier Than Heaven, 2005’s Room Full of Mirrors: A Biography of Jimi Hendrix, the revealing Cobain Unseen and his most recent release, Led Zeppelin: Shadows Taller Than Our Souls. Cross is also Associate Editor of Backstreets Magazine, an internationally circulated quarterly that focuses on Bruce Springsteen and related Jersey Shore artists, which he also founded in 1980.
Cross’s interest in music stemmed from a very early age, taking in a range of music genres or, as he himself says, “everything that was around at the time”. Asked what he listened to in particular, he named Bob Dylan, the Beatles, Carole King, James Taylor, the Rolling Stones and Bruce Springsteen as the acts that had the most influence on him growing up. Being a huge fan of rock, Seattle was immediately a place Cross felt comfortable. In one of his many articles that he wrote for the Seattle Times, Cross wrote "Seattle has always had more of an appetite for hard rock than other cities". When I questioned him on this he stated that this was because “it's a blue-collar town with shipyards and Boeing plants- that kinda blue-collar fan has always liked to rock”. In particular, writing about Northwestern bands has always been hugely important to Cross. Since he first began writing, he has been compelled to write about the bands that he truly loves. When I asked him who were his favourite bands to write about or interview, he answered: “Well, Soundgarden, Pearl Jam and Nirvana, definitely, but I also loved the Walkabouts, the Screaming Trees, and other underrated bands”.
Another thing that Cross has always been interested in is biography, especially writing about the lives of people in music. His biographies on Jimi Hendrix and Kurt Cobain provide true insight into the lives of both men, particularly the latter, which has been described as one of the most revealing and intimate accounts of one of music’s most influential figures. When I asked him what first drew him to this particular genre he replied: “I have always loved biography and reading things like the Charles Lindbergh biography by A. Scott Berg and Titan: The Life of John D. Rockefeller definitely influenced me. And of course Peter Guralnick's Elvis books...”
When I spoke to Cross, he was fresh from reviewing the Soundgarden reunion gig at the Showbox at the Market in Seattle for Rolling Stone magazine. When I asked Cross about the show, Soundgarden’s first since their break up in 1997, he said it was “exciting”. “There was a sense of spontaneity”, he added, “that suggested anything could happen”. Cross also commented that although it was a “great show”, it also made him feel “sad” that we will “never see a Nirvana reunion show”.
In the city that Cross calls home, it is impossible not to be reminded of the fact that Nirvana, one of the greatest and most influential bands the world has ever seen, are no more. As he stated in the opening chapter of Heavier Than Heaven, Cross lives less than a mile from Stan Baker Shooting Sports on Lake City Way, the store where the Nirvana singer and guitarist purchased the shotgun that was responsible for his death. I asked Cross if that was unsettling, to which he replied: “It can be creepy. I guess it can be both haunting and inspiring depending on the weather”. Regardless of the weather, Seattle is rife with reminders of Cobain and Nirvana, from the aforementioned Stan Baker’s and independent record label Sub Pop to the many music venues scattered around the city where the band played whilst trying to make it big.
Cross and Nirvana's path first intersected in 1989, when The Rocket, which Cross was editor of at the time, did the first cover story on Nirvana. Witnessing first-hand their transition from underground band to being one of, if not the, most famous bands of all time is something that very few people can boast about. When I asked him what his first impressions of the Nirvana were, Cross answered: “I liked them because of their pop side. I, like everyone else in Seattle, thought Mudhoney would be the bigger band at the start. I think one thing that’s important for people to remember is that early on the band were pretty darn ragged. They toured America five times before they became famous. I certainly had followed the band very closely and saw them live a number of times. I loved the early band stuff, was a big fan of the material from the beginning”. I also asked Cross about his first encounter with Cobain: “I was editor of The Rocket, which at the time was the music magazine in Seattle. Kurt had actually used our magazine on at least three different occasions advertising for a drummer. Every time Nirvana would lose a drummer, he’d come in the office and place an ad- ‘Band seeks drummer’. So, I knew him casually from the scene”.
It was clear Cross had much interaction with the Nirvana frontman during his rise to fame but I was eager to find out what kind of relationship he had with Cobain. “Even as his biographer and someone who knew Kurt, I wasn’t his best friend. And I was editor of a music magazine. We were always gonna have the kind of relationship where he was gonna be sort of suspicious. He clearly respected what I did. I had the benefit of a biographer of going through Kurt’s personal effects and things. He kept copies of my magazines and articles that I had done among his stuff. That, I guess, is the ultimate compliment that a music star could pay a journalist. So, I was respected in the world he was in”.
Cobain’s death in 1994 affected people all over the world and will continue to be remembered as one of the most devastating days in music history. Naturally, I asked Cross where he was at the moment he heard that Kurt Cobain's body had been found. “I was in my office at the Rocket. I knew before it went public; I was one of the first people to find out. I had contributed to a radio show here in Seattle and when the electrician who was working at Kurt's house found his body, that electrician's company called the radio station. I think the infamous words were, ‘You're gonna owe me some great Pink Floyd tickets for this news.’ That radio station called me before they went on air to see if they could confirm it because they knew I was sort of closer to that scene than they were. So, I remember hearing the news to this day. My reaction was, ‘No. It can't be Kurt.’ But at the same time, it's part of the denial. I knew it was him. Everyone in the Seattle scene knew he had struggles. I kept hoping that the body that was discovered would not be Kurt, that it would be mistaken and instead would be one of his drug-buddy friends. And of course, that wasn't the case.
It was heart-breaking to get the news, just like it was for everybody who was a Nirvana fan”.
While researching and writing his books on Cobain, Cross was given access to the Cobain estate, allowing him the opportunity to sift through intimate pictures and personal items, many of which he included in Cobain Unseen. I asked Cross about this experience. “Courtney controls the Kurt Cobain estate, which basically by an estate, is a bunch of stuff in a storage locker. But she trusted me. When I wrote my 2001 biography of Kurt, which pre-dated Cobain Unseen, she gave me access to his material. Cobain Unseen somewhat grew out of discussions around that book where I kept saying, ‘the stuff in Kurt’s locker is amazing stuff. You ought to let the world see it...he was an amazing artist.’ At one point she came to me and said, ‘OK. You can do the book.’ So, I was given access to the archives, with no parameters put on the use of Kurt’s stuff”. I also questioned Cross on whether it ever felt like he was delving too deep with his work, if he ever felt uncomfortable going though Cobain’s things, to which he replied: “There were things I left out. With every book, what you leave out is just as important as what you put in”.
In his journals, which were first printed in 2002, Cobain’s struggles were clear for anyone to see, or to read about rather. He battled with a chronic, undiagnosed stomach problem, he struggled with addiction and he was tormented by the demons of his past, particularly his parents’ divorce. He also battled constantly with the pressures of fame, the idea of being completely exposed and feeling like he was losing most of his privacy by moving further and further into the limelight. I was particularly interested in two contradictory statements Cobain wrote in his journals: "Don't read my diary when I'm gone" and "Please read my diary...Look through my things, and figure me out". I asked Cross which of these statements did he think was the most truthful and did he ever battle with the question of whether or not Cobain would have wanted his thoughts, words and drawings to be made available to the world. “I did, yes, but Kurt left his diaries out open on his coffee table so that said something to me. One of the more difficult things as a biographer was looking through Kurt’s journals and seeing how often he would write about his addiction and essentially beg God to please help him with it. He did not want to continue to suffer and basically wrote in his journals, ‘God, I will do anything. Please, please, please help me.’ Unfortunately, that help did not come”.
As well as writing about Cobain, Cross has written extensively on Jimi Hendrix. His book Room Full of Mirrors: A Biography of Jimi Hendrix provides an in-depth account of the life of the rock legend, capturing him perfectly. During his research for this book, which included interviewing over 325 people, Cross rediscovered the place where Hendrix’s mother, Lucille Jeter Hendrix, was buried which, oddly enough, lies only 40ft from where Hendrix himself now lies in Greenwood Memorial Park in Renton, Washington. The gravesite of Lucille Hendrix was lost because the standard welfare marker of her day, an inscribed brick, became buried in decades of mud from the area's notorious heavy rains. Cross delivered a moving eulogy for Lucille when a proper headstone was dedicated at the site. I asked Cross how it felt to uncover something so significant: “Eerie... My son was with me and he still talks about it and he was just a toddler at the time”.
Cobain and Hendrix had many things in common- they both were left-handed guitar players, both died at 27, had four-year musical careers and had battled drug addiction. They also both lived in Seattle, a city with one of the most notable music scenes in the world. I asked Cross if he felt enough had been done to honour both men in Seattle. “The answer is no. The city should honour them more. In the UK, they’ve got their blue plaques; we should have something like that here”.
The last thing I asked Cross was how he thought Kurt Cobain should be remembered, to which he replied: “Well, I think first and most importantly, he will be remembered for those songs. I think that's the reason we're talking about him still today. The quality of that songwriting I think will last and has lasted. That is ultimately the way I think he will be remembered. I think he will be remembered for creating this incredible body of work. The circumstances of his death and all those other things matter far less now sixteen years later. It's truly those songs and that music that is his legacy. Kurt was very unique and that’s the thing I think we miss now so long after his death. The great sadness is that we can’t hear that voice again. That’s the thing I miss. It’s sad for anyone who’s a fan of the music. Kurt was the biggest rock star in the world the year before he died. Sixteen years later, I’m not sure there is another rock star who is as enigmatic and compelling. He remains one of rock’s legendary figures. There has not been one single figure that I think ranks with Cobain since his death. That’s not to say there aren’t people putting out great records and there aren’t people that I love their music, but there’s nobody that combines that personal charisma, the musical quality and most importantly the songwriting genius that Kurt Cobain had. That’s the reason I think his legacy has endured”.
Charles R. Cross still lives in Seattle. He continues to write for numerous publications, both Seattle-based and beyond.
November 30, 2023
In what is largely agreed to be the definitive biography of the primal force behind the Grunge movement, Heavier Than Heaven takes us through the twenty-seven years Kurt Cobain spent on the planet Earth. Its approach is methodical and comprehensive, normalizing a life too often mythologized beyond recognition as a life, which was lived, and eventually discarded. This is not an easy path to take with an artist as consequential as the lead singer of Nirvana. Any eight bars from the refrain of Smells Like Teen Spirit (or the cliff's edge drop of the phrasing that follows) will rattle the cadent bones enough to verify this truth. The guy defies a through-line, and half a mind will decline to force him into that corporeal box.
Mr. Cross received a lot of cooperation in this endeavor from family, friends, rivals, and mates of band and bed. The insider status granted him by his years of writing about the music scene no doubt opened roads to marginal trust - roads that appear to have extended all the way to management and record label personnel. (Tough insights to acquire.) This impressive level of access benefitted greatly from the author's ability to separate the gold from the dross and illuminate accordingly. A lot of lunatic thought is (thankfully) shunted to the side.
The telling is almost skeletal, in fact. Workaday in its transmission, which I felt was brilliant for the virgin strip of margin it opened to the reader/fan. Here is where we use our own experience to inform a few of the more precious inches. For my part I saw the boy prince, worshipped and adored until his sister came along and his parents got divorced. How much of the turmoil that followed was an effort to regain that familial throne? Irretrievable, of course, but you're driven through the motions; casting and recasting from the wider world to recover the identity you lost. He journaled mightily, and in the entries in which his drug of choice makes an appearance, this ridiculously intelligent kid invariably spells it "heroine." Make of that what you will. Again, such is the nature of the margin.
The end is more tragic than you will imagine, or possibly be prepared for. That workaday transmission magnifies the shock. And this is the only flag I'll wave, because the biography is substantial enough to deserve the attention of anyone in any way curious about the life that's lived underneath the art.
Mr. Cross received a lot of cooperation in this endeavor from family, friends, rivals, and mates of band and bed. The insider status granted him by his years of writing about the music scene no doubt opened roads to marginal trust - roads that appear to have extended all the way to management and record label personnel. (Tough insights to acquire.) This impressive level of access benefitted greatly from the author's ability to separate the gold from the dross and illuminate accordingly. A lot of lunatic thought is (thankfully) shunted to the side.
The telling is almost skeletal, in fact. Workaday in its transmission, which I felt was brilliant for the virgin strip of margin it opened to the reader/fan. Here is where we use our own experience to inform a few of the more precious inches. For my part I saw the boy prince, worshipped and adored until his sister came along and his parents got divorced. How much of the turmoil that followed was an effort to regain that familial throne? Irretrievable, of course, but you're driven through the motions; casting and recasting from the wider world to recover the identity you lost. He journaled mightily, and in the entries in which his drug of choice makes an appearance, this ridiculously intelligent kid invariably spells it "heroine." Make of that what you will. Again, such is the nature of the margin.
The end is more tragic than you will imagine, or possibly be prepared for. That workaday transmission magnifies the shock. And this is the only flag I'll wave, because the biography is substantial enough to deserve the attention of anyone in any way curious about the life that's lived underneath the art.
March 5, 2024
I read this book years ago, and I remember enjoying it, but not much more than that. Last fall, I found a used copy of a “Montage of Heck” Blu-ray at a small record store in Kingston and immediately bought it, as I had been meaning to watch it for a while. And maybe I am getting old, maybe my 90s nostalgia is getting the best of me and maybe I am sentimental sap, but I cried so much watching that damn movie. I’ve been around musicians enough to know that they can be both the best and the worst people, and I have few illusions about Cobain having been any kind of saint, and perhaps this is just good editing, but that movie captured such a great sadness in him, and it really struck a nerve with me. I looked for my copy of “Heavier Than Heaven”; it appears one of my brother’s friends borrowed it and never gave it back. Those little shits are the reason I don’t lend books anymore. Anyway, I saw that there was a new updated edition out there, so I hunted that down and here we are.
I was a little too young to really get Nirvana when they were a big deal; this was a rearview mirror and secondhand situation for me, but it didn’t stop me from having my socks blown right off when I started getting into it. They played one of my favorite dives in Montreal, in the “Bleach” era if I am not mistaken (that place would not have been able to handle “Nevermind” era sized crowds), and one of their flyers is immortalized under a thick layer of shellac on one of their table tops; it always makes me smile when I end up at that table. But even today, when I get in the mood and put the legendary “MTV Unplugged” record on and listen to their cover of “Where Did You Sleep Last Night”, something inside me rattles and my heart breaks just a little bit for that poor boy (I’m 40, he was 27; he now is, and always will be, a boy) who held so much pain inside him.
The story of Kurt Cobain is in many ways a classic story of a brilliant and creative young person who battled inner demons who eventually got the best of him, someone who got hit with success so early and so fast that there was no time to process it or put his success in the right place mentally. Reading a book about him is strange at time, because I wasn’t able to stop myself from thinking about how much time he had left to live in relations to the events I was reading about. It’s also strange when the cycle of trendiness has brought 90s music and clothes back in the mainstream; there was a good ten or fifteen years during which saying you liked Nirvana was terribly passé, but now, expressing a fondness for them is met with an appreciative nod and a declaration that they are “classic”.
Urgh.
Something that stuck me in “Montage of Heck” that I hadn’t really realized before (perhaps because I was too young to think about it with the correct perspective) is that his parents, like many parents of their generation, had no idea what to do with a challenging child who had symptoms of depression and anxiety, so they sent him to a shrink who put him on meds (and eventually went as far as to basically kick him out of their houses), and that was that. Cross goes over that period of Kurt’s life, of course. The sad fact is that parenting in the 70s, 80s and 90s was a lot about managing disruptive children into being less troublesome for their parents and teachers than about figuring out why they were disruptive in the first place, and that makes me quite sad. I wonder if his life would have been very different if his folks had actually taken time to address his sadness and his anger, but that’s the sort of thing we will never know. It also feels somewhat cliché as hell to say that some children are genuinely traumatized by their parents’ divorce (I’m always amazed when I meet people my age whose parents are still together – that’s a thing?!), but it happens, and the trauma is very difficult to process, sometimes well into adulthood – and while Cross doesn’t try to analyze Kurt’s behavior, the signs of trauma are fairly obvious. People blame Courtney Love for a lot, but his folks definitely got the ball rolling… The later parts of the book, that go over how much he loved his daughter and how terrified he was of not being the father he would have wanted to have are simply heartbreaking.
It's also not uncommon for children of divorce to have strong ideals about love and romantic relationships: they crave intensity and stability because the chaos and impermanency of being raised in a split family is a discomfort they never want to experience again. The way Kurt attached a lot of meaning to sex and his relationships with women was not a surprise; it’s an extremely common yearning of kids raised by divorced parents. And on that topic, if you loathe Courtney Love, you will probably find that Cross is very forgiving of her, and paints her in a rather positive light. I’ve seen a few reviews calling this out because he needed her approval to publish this book, but as someone who has fairly neutral feelings about her, I have to say that I don’t think he made her into a saint. She comes across as deeply caring for Kurt, but carrying a ton of damage of her own into the relationship, and her history with drugs certainly didn’t help Kurt, but it doesn’t seem likely to me that she was the one who got him hooked. He had romanticized the idea of being a junkie rock star long before she was a part of his life. The bottom line is that I totally get why people dislike her (I am happy to listen to my old Hole records, but I wouldn’t hang out with her), but I also think that there is little she or anyone could have done to steer Kurt off the path he was on.
I also got the strong sense as I re-read this book, that so much of Kurt’s abrasiveness was a defense mechanism, meant to protect a very tender part of himself he didn’t trust the world with. In fact, both this book and “Montage of Heck” gave me the feeling that Kurt was someone haunted by sadness and longing, and that the only way he could successfully express those things was through his music. It’s why it remains relatable and fresh even today (yes, I did listen to a ton of Nirvana as I was reading this, I am a sentimental twit who processes emotions through music): times may have changed, but people still feel deeply alienated, they still crave unconditional love and they still long for a world without bullshit – so they still listen to Kurt’s music and get it.
Cross worked really hard to stay as objective as he could as he sorted through the enormous amount of material he gathered as someone who was an insider of the music scene – he had known quite a few of the main actors personally through his work. I appreciate that, as he doesn’t project too much in his writing, but it does feel a little clinical at times. Obviously, anyone reading this who has any kind of emotional attachment to Nirvana’s music is going to do their fair share of projection, and he was probably trying to give his readers the cleanest slate possible, which I appreciate.
When this book was originally published, Kurt had been dead for five or six years; the new edition marks the 25th anniversary of his passing, and Cross made a few interesting additions about how he feels there hasn’t really been another rock star like Kurt Cobain since, and explains his reasoning with discussing how different the music industry is today, but also specifically how we access music now vs. when Kurt was growing up. Having read Chuck Klosterman’s book “The Nineties” recently, I think he might be on to something, the same way that film-makers who were influenced by the video store culture developed a distinct style that would not have been conceivable in different circumstances. Kurt remains an icon because he was a bit like lightening in a bottle: recreating him is simply impossible.
This skinny little twerp with weird hair will always have a special place in my heart. This book is filled with great insights about him and how he became someone he never had the chance to get comfortable with. Cross is right: there just might never be another Kurt Cobain, for better or worse. For the Nirvana fans, the nostalgic idiots and those curious about a very weird, very specific moment of rock history.
I was a little too young to really get Nirvana when they were a big deal; this was a rearview mirror and secondhand situation for me, but it didn’t stop me from having my socks blown right off when I started getting into it. They played one of my favorite dives in Montreal, in the “Bleach” era if I am not mistaken (that place would not have been able to handle “Nevermind” era sized crowds), and one of their flyers is immortalized under a thick layer of shellac on one of their table tops; it always makes me smile when I end up at that table. But even today, when I get in the mood and put the legendary “MTV Unplugged” record on and listen to their cover of “Where Did You Sleep Last Night”, something inside me rattles and my heart breaks just a little bit for that poor boy (I’m 40, he was 27; he now is, and always will be, a boy) who held so much pain inside him.
The story of Kurt Cobain is in many ways a classic story of a brilliant and creative young person who battled inner demons who eventually got the best of him, someone who got hit with success so early and so fast that there was no time to process it or put his success in the right place mentally. Reading a book about him is strange at time, because I wasn’t able to stop myself from thinking about how much time he had left to live in relations to the events I was reading about. It’s also strange when the cycle of trendiness has brought 90s music and clothes back in the mainstream; there was a good ten or fifteen years during which saying you liked Nirvana was terribly passé, but now, expressing a fondness for them is met with an appreciative nod and a declaration that they are “classic”.
Urgh.
Something that stuck me in “Montage of Heck” that I hadn’t really realized before (perhaps because I was too young to think about it with the correct perspective) is that his parents, like many parents of their generation, had no idea what to do with a challenging child who had symptoms of depression and anxiety, so they sent him to a shrink who put him on meds (and eventually went as far as to basically kick him out of their houses), and that was that. Cross goes over that period of Kurt’s life, of course. The sad fact is that parenting in the 70s, 80s and 90s was a lot about managing disruptive children into being less troublesome for their parents and teachers than about figuring out why they were disruptive in the first place, and that makes me quite sad. I wonder if his life would have been very different if his folks had actually taken time to address his sadness and his anger, but that’s the sort of thing we will never know. It also feels somewhat cliché as hell to say that some children are genuinely traumatized by their parents’ divorce (I’m always amazed when I meet people my age whose parents are still together – that’s a thing?!), but it happens, and the trauma is very difficult to process, sometimes well into adulthood – and while Cross doesn’t try to analyze Kurt’s behavior, the signs of trauma are fairly obvious. People blame Courtney Love for a lot, but his folks definitely got the ball rolling… The later parts of the book, that go over how much he loved his daughter and how terrified he was of not being the father he would have wanted to have are simply heartbreaking.
It's also not uncommon for children of divorce to have strong ideals about love and romantic relationships: they crave intensity and stability because the chaos and impermanency of being raised in a split family is a discomfort they never want to experience again. The way Kurt attached a lot of meaning to sex and his relationships with women was not a surprise; it’s an extremely common yearning of kids raised by divorced parents. And on that topic, if you loathe Courtney Love, you will probably find that Cross is very forgiving of her, and paints her in a rather positive light. I’ve seen a few reviews calling this out because he needed her approval to publish this book, but as someone who has fairly neutral feelings about her, I have to say that I don’t think he made her into a saint. She comes across as deeply caring for Kurt, but carrying a ton of damage of her own into the relationship, and her history with drugs certainly didn’t help Kurt, but it doesn’t seem likely to me that she was the one who got him hooked. He had romanticized the idea of being a junkie rock star long before she was a part of his life. The bottom line is that I totally get why people dislike her (I am happy to listen to my old Hole records, but I wouldn’t hang out with her), but I also think that there is little she or anyone could have done to steer Kurt off the path he was on.
I also got the strong sense as I re-read this book, that so much of Kurt’s abrasiveness was a defense mechanism, meant to protect a very tender part of himself he didn’t trust the world with. In fact, both this book and “Montage of Heck” gave me the feeling that Kurt was someone haunted by sadness and longing, and that the only way he could successfully express those things was through his music. It’s why it remains relatable and fresh even today (yes, I did listen to a ton of Nirvana as I was reading this, I am a sentimental twit who processes emotions through music): times may have changed, but people still feel deeply alienated, they still crave unconditional love and they still long for a world without bullshit – so they still listen to Kurt’s music and get it.
Cross worked really hard to stay as objective as he could as he sorted through the enormous amount of material he gathered as someone who was an insider of the music scene – he had known quite a few of the main actors personally through his work. I appreciate that, as he doesn’t project too much in his writing, but it does feel a little clinical at times. Obviously, anyone reading this who has any kind of emotional attachment to Nirvana’s music is going to do their fair share of projection, and he was probably trying to give his readers the cleanest slate possible, which I appreciate.
When this book was originally published, Kurt had been dead for five or six years; the new edition marks the 25th anniversary of his passing, and Cross made a few interesting additions about how he feels there hasn’t really been another rock star like Kurt Cobain since, and explains his reasoning with discussing how different the music industry is today, but also specifically how we access music now vs. when Kurt was growing up. Having read Chuck Klosterman’s book “The Nineties” recently, I think he might be on to something, the same way that film-makers who were influenced by the video store culture developed a distinct style that would not have been conceivable in different circumstances. Kurt remains an icon because he was a bit like lightening in a bottle: recreating him is simply impossible.
This skinny little twerp with weird hair will always have a special place in my heart. This book is filled with great insights about him and how he became someone he never had the chance to get comfortable with. Cross is right: there just might never be another Kurt Cobain, for better or worse. For the Nirvana fans, the nostalgic idiots and those curious about a very weird, very specific moment of rock history.
December 1, 2010
I published this on a music blog group called Future Rockstars of American (which is now dead I think):
I finished reading the biography of Kurt Cobain, Heavier Than Heaven written by Charles Cross, just in time for what would have been his 41st birthday. My conclusion?Kurdt (that’s how he liked to spell it) was a jerk!
Cortney Love had the crowd call him worse things when she read his suicide note to them.
I was not an active and avid fan of Nirvana when their singer Kurt Cobain killed glam rock with his nonsensical screams and pop structured punk grunge tunes. I liked their music though, and I remember wondering,
“Why is he singing about girl’s deoderant?”
As I listen to the Nirvana albums today, I realize that I know practically every song. I guess you can’t be a teen in the early nineties and escape the impact Nirvana had on that generation.
I try to imagine what I would have done if the idol of my own teen years, Tori Amos, had committed suicide while I was in the midst of using her music and voice as a resonator for my young soul. I would probably have sobbed in grief silently under my bed covers with her album on repeat, or maybe I would have smashed her cds on the street in effigy at the betrayal. Whatever the physical actions, I know for sure that the piercing and torturous scream in my head would have been:
“WHY?! WHY?! WHY?! WHY?! WHY?!….”
That’s exactly what Courtney Love screamed as she waded her hands in the blood of her beloved dead husband and saved a piece of his shotgun shattered skull. His suicide was simply a pattern that he had repeated his whole life since his mother left his father when he was 7 years old. Before that event, he was a little boy that didn’t want to sleep because he didn’t want to leave his family. After that, he was a self-destructing, relationship sabotaging jerk.
To be fair, Kurdt wasn’t all bad.
He was an animal lover who took in strays and loved having a bathtub full of turtles in the middle of his dwelling. His home always smelled like the bottom of a litter tray.
He was incredibly respectful of women, more feminist than the feminist punker girl love interest that “Smells Like Teen Spirit” was written about. His song “Polly” is as poignant a song about rape as Tori Amos’s “Me and A Gun (and a man on my back).”
He really, really loved his parents and sister, which is why he reacted so strongly to the breaking of his idyllic home life. He cared deeply for his grandparents and other relatives.
He really, deeply, truly loved his wife and daughter. Why else would he name his albums In Utero the year after his marriage and daughter’s birth?
Though a drug addict, he called Courtney and cried when drug addicts worshipped him at a concert. He couldn’t stand being an icon for drug use.
Kurdt was charismatic, drawing people into his life with his sincere kindness and empathy as well as the siren song of his art.
But he was a control freak. He would create something real and genuine then quickly destroy it himself before someone else could. It was his way of protecting himself from loss. He broke everything precious to him the way he smashed his guitars. He had attempted suicide multiple times.
As I read the biography, I had thought that I would become so invested in its main character that I would be very sad for him when he died. Unexpectedly, there were three other moments instead that were intensely painful to vicariously witness. First was a short conversation he had with his estranged father where they actually exchanged an awkward and heartfelt “I love you.” Then there was the moment when he held his daughter for the last time and whispered into her ear before he went off to kill himself. Finally, there was Cortney’s reaction to his death. She had covered herself in layers of his clothes that still had the lingering scent of his body. Like all deaths, it’s the ones left behind that suffer.
Cross did a great job allowing readers a glimpse into Cobain’s life and mind. I’m a bigger fan of Nirvana after reading the book. As I read his descrīption of Kurdt in the actual act of suicide, the image of him abandoning family, friends, and millions of adoring fans who had linked their hearts and souls with his caused me to whisper under my breath:
“How could you?”
Granted it wasn’t like all of his family, friends, and fans were perfect people, but it is heartbreaking to see so many hearts break.
I finished reading the biography of Kurt Cobain, Heavier Than Heaven written by Charles Cross, just in time for what would have been his 41st birthday. My conclusion?Kurdt (that’s how he liked to spell it) was a jerk!
Cortney Love had the crowd call him worse things when she read his suicide note to them.
I was not an active and avid fan of Nirvana when their singer Kurt Cobain killed glam rock with his nonsensical screams and pop structured punk grunge tunes. I liked their music though, and I remember wondering,
“Why is he singing about girl’s deoderant?”
As I listen to the Nirvana albums today, I realize that I know practically every song. I guess you can’t be a teen in the early nineties and escape the impact Nirvana had on that generation.
I try to imagine what I would have done if the idol of my own teen years, Tori Amos, had committed suicide while I was in the midst of using her music and voice as a resonator for my young soul. I would probably have sobbed in grief silently under my bed covers with her album on repeat, or maybe I would have smashed her cds on the street in effigy at the betrayal. Whatever the physical actions, I know for sure that the piercing and torturous scream in my head would have been:
“WHY?! WHY?! WHY?! WHY?! WHY?!….”
That’s exactly what Courtney Love screamed as she waded her hands in the blood of her beloved dead husband and saved a piece of his shotgun shattered skull. His suicide was simply a pattern that he had repeated his whole life since his mother left his father when he was 7 years old. Before that event, he was a little boy that didn’t want to sleep because he didn’t want to leave his family. After that, he was a self-destructing, relationship sabotaging jerk.
To be fair, Kurdt wasn’t all bad.
He was an animal lover who took in strays and loved having a bathtub full of turtles in the middle of his dwelling. His home always smelled like the bottom of a litter tray.
He was incredibly respectful of women, more feminist than the feminist punker girl love interest that “Smells Like Teen Spirit” was written about. His song “Polly” is as poignant a song about rape as Tori Amos’s “Me and A Gun (and a man on my back).”
He really, really loved his parents and sister, which is why he reacted so strongly to the breaking of his idyllic home life. He cared deeply for his grandparents and other relatives.
He really, deeply, truly loved his wife and daughter. Why else would he name his albums In Utero the year after his marriage and daughter’s birth?
Though a drug addict, he called Courtney and cried when drug addicts worshipped him at a concert. He couldn’t stand being an icon for drug use.
Kurdt was charismatic, drawing people into his life with his sincere kindness and empathy as well as the siren song of his art.
But he was a control freak. He would create something real and genuine then quickly destroy it himself before someone else could. It was his way of protecting himself from loss. He broke everything precious to him the way he smashed his guitars. He had attempted suicide multiple times.
As I read the biography, I had thought that I would become so invested in its main character that I would be very sad for him when he died. Unexpectedly, there were three other moments instead that were intensely painful to vicariously witness. First was a short conversation he had with his estranged father where they actually exchanged an awkward and heartfelt “I love you.” Then there was the moment when he held his daughter for the last time and whispered into her ear before he went off to kill himself. Finally, there was Cortney’s reaction to his death. She had covered herself in layers of his clothes that still had the lingering scent of his body. Like all deaths, it’s the ones left behind that suffer.
Cross did a great job allowing readers a glimpse into Cobain’s life and mind. I’m a bigger fan of Nirvana after reading the book. As I read his descrīption of Kurdt in the actual act of suicide, the image of him abandoning family, friends, and millions of adoring fans who had linked their hearts and souls with his caused me to whisper under my breath:
“How could you?”
Granted it wasn’t like all of his family, friends, and fans were perfect people, but it is heartbreaking to see so many hearts break.
March 20, 2022
I enjoyed this book until I got to the last chapter. Like a couple of other reviews state, the author makes it feel like Kurt is a character in a fictional story. The book is packed with details that left me astounded. While reading, I kept a browser open on my computer because there was always something I wanted to look into or a video to search. The author did a brilliant job of describing specific scenes and pictures, I really wish more of the pictures he described would have been included in this book. However, the authors description of Kurt's final days were very disturbing. The author describes in great detail what Kurt did alone in his house ... what he was thinking, why he did what he did. There is no way for the author to know this. It is unfair for the author to assume many of the things written and it makes me question the validity of the entire book.
June 28, 2021
Acabo de terminar este libro biográfico, escrito por el periodista Charles R. Cross sobre el cantante y autor kurt Cobain; y la verdad debo decir que es uno de los mejores documentos sobre la historia de la música que he podido tener en mis manos, al margen de una edición hermosa y bien cuidada por parte de la editorial Reservoir Books (que me hizo pensar mucho sobre el libro como objeto y su valor intrínseco) está muy bien documentado, es valiente y además muy interesante porque no solo nos cuenta una vida que entrelaza las vidas de toda una generación sino que nos da a conocer realidades alternaras sobre las ideas preconcebidas que muchas veces tenemos de nuestros ídolos.
Recuerdo que yo era una niña cuando en 1994 se anunci�� por todos los medios de comunicación que Cobain había sido encontrado muerto en su casa (se había pegado un tiro en la cabeza con una escopeta) creo que se podría decir que prácticamente toda mi generación quedo en silencio, fue uno de esos momentos que sabes son realmente históricos porque representan un punto de inflexión del que no se puede regresar jamás. Yo había ahorrado lo que podía de mis recreos para comprar mi primer cd, cuando fui a la disco tienda le pregunte al vendedor cuál de los álbumes de Nirvana (estaba segura del grupo) le recomendaría a una persona que seguramente solo podría comprar uno durante el resto de su vida, me dijo sin dudarlo “In Útero” es el mejor pero el más histórico es “Nevermind” quédate con ese último porque será algo memorable que querrás tener por siempre y así lo hice. Esto lo cuento para que se hagan a una idea de lo representa este grupo de Grunge (género al que prácticamente dieron inicio) para las personas que crecimos en esa época.
Kurt Cobain no solo era un genio creativo, era una persona con múltiples inseguridades y seguridades que sufría de constates conflictos existenciales surgidos de una personalidad sensible en un entorno hostil (muy de mi generación) por ello se nos hace tan cercano que de alguna forma lo sentimos como el amigo malogrado que todos quisimos pero aun así nadie pudo ayudar. Aunque debo confesar desde chica y hasta el día de hoy mi Nirvana favorito es Krist Novoselic por buen amigo, excelente persona, activista político y musical, granjero, aviador y punk irreverente. Cobain siempre será recordado como la persona que lo gesto todo de forma meticulosa logrando el cambio que la música rock necesitaba, ya que desde unos años atrás se había dado lugar a una vertiente musical de pelos largos, vestidos de colores, maquillaje estridente, letras pegajosas y sin sentido; él le dijo alto a todo ello, seremos nosotros los que gritaran, los olvidados de los barrios pobres, los enfadados con un sistema social y educativo excluyente, los que vestimos zapatillas de deporte, pantalones rotos y camisetas descoloridas, los que tenemos sueños que son grandiosos por sencillos, los que no creemos que exista un lugar en el mundo donde posar nuestra confianza, seremos nosotros los que gritaremos y así lo hizo. Grito, grito más fuerte que nadie.
En Nirvana Kurt era el gran talento ideológico y espiritual, Dave era el llegado al final que corría a adaptarse armado de su gran capacidad musical y Krist era el corazón, el que hacia las paces con los otros y entre los otros, el que se erigiría como la barra que sostiene el barco que parece irse al fondo en la gran tormenta. Y por eso es que funcionaron porque cada uno desde su lugar supo dar todo lo que tenía y enfocarse en lo importante que era cambiar las cosas y generar posibilidades de expresión artística autentica. Llevaron su ética punk a un lugar donde su irreverencia (aunque utilizada por el mercadeo al final) les permitiría transformar una realidad y un futuro para todos nosotros.
Pero mientras los conciertos, la fama y el dinero llegaban (apoyados en gran medida de MTV cuando este era un canal de verdad) Kurt sufría no tan en silencio de múltiples circunstancias que le hacían imposible adaptarse a la realidad que el mismo había construido, era hipersensible, lleno de culpa, en una relación matrimonial llena de amor y conflictos, tenía serios problemas con las drogas, no se sentía a gusto con la dirección comercial que el grupo tomaba, no se sentía ético con su público, era azotado de fuertes dolores estomacales, fantaseaba con el suicidio, se alejó de sus amigos más queridos, era padre de una nena a la que temía decepcionar como sus padres hicieron con él y estaba atrapado en un pequeño cuerpo en el que nunca se sintió cómodo y que envejecía cada día alejándolo del ideal juvenil que la sociedad tanto publicita; en resumen Kurt tenía miedo y no sabía qué hacer para salir de aquel atolladero sin dejar muertos en la calzada. Así que hizo lo que pensó mejor para todos, fue el quien dejo su cuerpo para que los demás tuvieran que velarlo.
Y con ello nos cambió a todos, nos dijo alto que las cosas no son un carnaval, alto que las cosas no son como un comercial en MTV, nos hizo sentarnos a todos a tomar aliento y reconfigurar lo que pensábamos del mundo y de la idealización de los pelos largos, las drogas, la música, la rebeldía y el suicidio. Nos dijo alto que las cosas no van por buen camino que aunque logres gritar, la sociedad sigue siendo un gran monstruo que se los come a todos, alto que no es la adaptación ni la rebeldía total la respuesta; el problema es que nos dejó a huérfanos a Frances Bean y a los demás que quisiéramos haber tenido la oportunidad de conocerle cuando pudiera sobrellevar sus conflictos, quisiéramos saber la respuesta a las preguntas que se planteaba, quisiéramos saber si dichas inquietudes realmente tenían algún tipo de solución.
Cuando comencé a leer el libro debo confesar de que no me encontraba en el mejor lugar del mundo, atrapada física, mental y socialmente en una realidad de la que no disfruto había olvidado quien era realmente, me había dejado absorber por la necesidad del cada día, ya no escribía, ya no hablaba con mis amigos, ya no escuchaba música, ya no soñaba. Leer el texto me dio la oportunidad de reencontrarme conmigo misma y estoy convencida ese es el primer escalón para poder transformar mi situación actual, porque solo cuando nos aceptamos y conocemos podemos reestructurar nuestras vidas; busque mi pulsera de cuero y volví a sentir la fuerza y el deseo de comerme el mundo, deje un poco de lado el atolladero y me permití volver a aspirar, perdonarme y seguir.
Últimamente las cosas no han ido bien y no lo digo solo por mí, lo digo por lo que puedo ver en la mayoría de miembros de mi generación, personas altamente educadas, inteligentes, sensibles y sin oportunidades reales, algunos atrapados en matrimonios vacíos, trabajos acomodados y rutinas agobiantes y otros absolutamente perdidos, sin un lugar para llamar suyo y con los sueños cada vez más lejos de la posibilidad de cumplirse porque en un país donde a los 25 ya se considera que estas muerto social, laboral y emocionalmente (como el mito de Caicedo, hay que matarse a los 25 con 60 pastillas de seconal) se están perdiendo las mentes y corazones de toda una generación tirada a la desesperación como si fueran basura que se arroja al rio. Debemos dejar de idealizar la juventud y ver a las personas por lo que realmente son, los chicos no son los únicos que pueden soñar, capacitarse y generar cambios y los viejos no son los sabios muertos andantes descartables en la sociedad. Los años biológicos no son más que esos, no son un factor determinante en la valía de una persona. No se está muerto cuando llegas a los 30, se está muerto cuando dejas de soñar.
Entonces empecé a leer el libro de Cross y empecé a sentir la inquietud de nuevo en mi corazón, empecé a escribir, empecé a investigar, empecé a escuchar música y quise comunicarlo. Es allí cuando publique algunos mensajes en las redes sociales, referentes al suicidio y los órdenes y problemáticas sociales; una persona que no niego tenía buenas intenciones me increpo con angustia solicitando que si estaba deprimida y quería acabar con mi vida (porque si uno habla de esos temas en público quiere decir que tiene depresión) fuera a su casa, yo me quede en silencio sin saber si reír o llorar por una parte había logrado captar la atención sobre el problema pero por otro me daba cuenta de lo tabú que resulta hablar sobre estos temas de forma abierta. Quizás por ello casi todos los míos tenemos a alguien cercano que ha muerto por suicidio; hablarlo parece que da miedo, parece algo que debemos esconder debajo del tapete. Frances Bean Cobain, Courtney Love, Dave Grohl y Krist Novoselic lo han expresado en múltiples ocasiones, el suicidio, las drogas, los desórdenes mentales y los problemas sociales son asuntos muy serios que deben dejar de ser tabú o idealizaciones adolescentes y ser enfrentados como lo que son, debemos sacar el oso que escondemos en el refrigerador y afrontar la realidad de que muchas personas y quizás nosotros mismos necesitemos ayuda. Debemos apartar el miedo para permitir que historias como la de Kurt no se repitan de forma sistemática como hasta ahora viene sucediendo, que alguien hable de ello no debe ser vergonzoso, debe ser lo que es, tomar el toro por los cuernos y reflejar la suficiente empatía en el otro para dejar de ser solo entrometidos y convertirnos en manos amigas.
Finalmente diré que la historia de un hombre no es solo la historia de sus más íntimas inclinaciones, miedos y sentimientos; también es la historia de la generación que lo rodea y la herencia social de sus precedentes; así que la historia de un hombre viene a convertirse en la historia de todos, Kurt creció donde no quería y tuvo que luchar por sobrevivir sin lograr nunca adaptarse a un entorno que ni el entendía ni lo entendía a él; Kurt cambio las cosas, pero no fue fácil su lucha y al final dejo mucho dolor y sangre en el camino. ¿Entonces qué es lo más importante, la meta o el camino? Maquiavelo diría que la meta, Lewis Carroll que el camino yo les diría que no se, al final los cuerpos siempre terminan en el atolladero, entonces dejemos volar un poco las almas que es lo único que nos queda.
Yo no creo que sea mejor quemarse que apagarse lentamente, creo que es mejor quemar al mundo y ya.
(De alguna forma el libro me recuerda a la película Requiem for a Dream de Darren Aronofsky; esa no la ponía de chicos y al final la terminaron por convertir en una especie de amenaza, si tomas drogas, si te apartas del camino, si sueñas este será tu final)
21 mayo 2019.
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http://danesda.blogspot.com/2019/05/h...
Recuerdo que yo era una niña cuando en 1994 se anunci�� por todos los medios de comunicación que Cobain había sido encontrado muerto en su casa (se había pegado un tiro en la cabeza con una escopeta) creo que se podría decir que prácticamente toda mi generación quedo en silencio, fue uno de esos momentos que sabes son realmente históricos porque representan un punto de inflexión del que no se puede regresar jamás. Yo había ahorrado lo que podía de mis recreos para comprar mi primer cd, cuando fui a la disco tienda le pregunte al vendedor cuál de los álbumes de Nirvana (estaba segura del grupo) le recomendaría a una persona que seguramente solo podría comprar uno durante el resto de su vida, me dijo sin dudarlo “In Útero” es el mejor pero el más histórico es “Nevermind” quédate con ese último porque será algo memorable que querrás tener por siempre y así lo hice. Esto lo cuento para que se hagan a una idea de lo representa este grupo de Grunge (género al que prácticamente dieron inicio) para las personas que crecimos en esa época.
Kurt Cobain no solo era un genio creativo, era una persona con múltiples inseguridades y seguridades que sufría de constates conflictos existenciales surgidos de una personalidad sensible en un entorno hostil (muy de mi generación) por ello se nos hace tan cercano que de alguna forma lo sentimos como el amigo malogrado que todos quisimos pero aun así nadie pudo ayudar. Aunque debo confesar desde chica y hasta el día de hoy mi Nirvana favorito es Krist Novoselic por buen amigo, excelente persona, activista político y musical, granjero, aviador y punk irreverente. Cobain siempre será recordado como la persona que lo gesto todo de forma meticulosa logrando el cambio que la música rock necesitaba, ya que desde unos años atrás se había dado lugar a una vertiente musical de pelos largos, vestidos de colores, maquillaje estridente, letras pegajosas y sin sentido; él le dijo alto a todo ello, seremos nosotros los que gritaran, los olvidados de los barrios pobres, los enfadados con un sistema social y educativo excluyente, los que vestimos zapatillas de deporte, pantalones rotos y camisetas descoloridas, los que tenemos sueños que son grandiosos por sencillos, los que no creemos que exista un lugar en el mundo donde posar nuestra confianza, seremos nosotros los que gritaremos y así lo hizo. Grito, grito más fuerte que nadie.
En Nirvana Kurt era el gran talento ideológico y espiritual, Dave era el llegado al final que corría a adaptarse armado de su gran capacidad musical y Krist era el corazón, el que hacia las paces con los otros y entre los otros, el que se erigiría como la barra que sostiene el barco que parece irse al fondo en la gran tormenta. Y por eso es que funcionaron porque cada uno desde su lugar supo dar todo lo que tenía y enfocarse en lo importante que era cambiar las cosas y generar posibilidades de expresión artística autentica. Llevaron su ética punk a un lugar donde su irreverencia (aunque utilizada por el mercadeo al final) les permitiría transformar una realidad y un futuro para todos nosotros.
Pero mientras los conciertos, la fama y el dinero llegaban (apoyados en gran medida de MTV cuando este era un canal de verdad) Kurt sufría no tan en silencio de múltiples circunstancias que le hacían imposible adaptarse a la realidad que el mismo había construido, era hipersensible, lleno de culpa, en una relación matrimonial llena de amor y conflictos, tenía serios problemas con las drogas, no se sentía a gusto con la dirección comercial que el grupo tomaba, no se sentía ético con su público, era azotado de fuertes dolores estomacales, fantaseaba con el suicidio, se alejó de sus amigos más queridos, era padre de una nena a la que temía decepcionar como sus padres hicieron con él y estaba atrapado en un pequeño cuerpo en el que nunca se sintió cómodo y que envejecía cada día alejándolo del ideal juvenil que la sociedad tanto publicita; en resumen Kurt tenía miedo y no sabía qué hacer para salir de aquel atolladero sin dejar muertos en la calzada. Así que hizo lo que pensó mejor para todos, fue el quien dejo su cuerpo para que los demás tuvieran que velarlo.
Y con ello nos cambió a todos, nos dijo alto que las cosas no son un carnaval, alto que las cosas no son como un comercial en MTV, nos hizo sentarnos a todos a tomar aliento y reconfigurar lo que pensábamos del mundo y de la idealización de los pelos largos, las drogas, la música, la rebeldía y el suicidio. Nos dijo alto que las cosas no van por buen camino que aunque logres gritar, la sociedad sigue siendo un gran monstruo que se los come a todos, alto que no es la adaptación ni la rebeldía total la respuesta; el problema es que nos dejó a huérfanos a Frances Bean y a los demás que quisiéramos haber tenido la oportunidad de conocerle cuando pudiera sobrellevar sus conflictos, quisiéramos saber la respuesta a las preguntas que se planteaba, quisiéramos saber si dichas inquietudes realmente tenían algún tipo de solución.
Cuando comencé a leer el libro debo confesar de que no me encontraba en el mejor lugar del mundo, atrapada física, mental y socialmente en una realidad de la que no disfruto había olvidado quien era realmente, me había dejado absorber por la necesidad del cada día, ya no escribía, ya no hablaba con mis amigos, ya no escuchaba música, ya no soñaba. Leer el texto me dio la oportunidad de reencontrarme conmigo misma y estoy convencida ese es el primer escalón para poder transformar mi situación actual, porque solo cuando nos aceptamos y conocemos podemos reestructurar nuestras vidas; busque mi pulsera de cuero y volví a sentir la fuerza y el deseo de comerme el mundo, deje un poco de lado el atolladero y me permití volver a aspirar, perdonarme y seguir.
Últimamente las cosas no han ido bien y no lo digo solo por mí, lo digo por lo que puedo ver en la mayoría de miembros de mi generación, personas altamente educadas, inteligentes, sensibles y sin oportunidades reales, algunos atrapados en matrimonios vacíos, trabajos acomodados y rutinas agobiantes y otros absolutamente perdidos, sin un lugar para llamar suyo y con los sueños cada vez más lejos de la posibilidad de cumplirse porque en un país donde a los 25 ya se considera que estas muerto social, laboral y emocionalmente (como el mito de Caicedo, hay que matarse a los 25 con 60 pastillas de seconal) se están perdiendo las mentes y corazones de toda una generación tirada a la desesperación como si fueran basura que se arroja al rio. Debemos dejar de idealizar la juventud y ver a las personas por lo que realmente son, los chicos no son los únicos que pueden soñar, capacitarse y generar cambios y los viejos no son los sabios muertos andantes descartables en la sociedad. Los años biológicos no son más que esos, no son un factor determinante en la valía de una persona. No se está muerto cuando llegas a los 30, se está muerto cuando dejas de soñar.
Entonces empecé a leer el libro de Cross y empecé a sentir la inquietud de nuevo en mi corazón, empecé a escribir, empecé a investigar, empecé a escuchar música y quise comunicarlo. Es allí cuando publique algunos mensajes en las redes sociales, referentes al suicidio y los órdenes y problemáticas sociales; una persona que no niego tenía buenas intenciones me increpo con angustia solicitando que si estaba deprimida y quería acabar con mi vida (porque si uno habla de esos temas en público quiere decir que tiene depresión) fuera a su casa, yo me quede en silencio sin saber si reír o llorar por una parte había logrado captar la atención sobre el problema pero por otro me daba cuenta de lo tabú que resulta hablar sobre estos temas de forma abierta. Quizás por ello casi todos los míos tenemos a alguien cercano que ha muerto por suicidio; hablarlo parece que da miedo, parece algo que debemos esconder debajo del tapete. Frances Bean Cobain, Courtney Love, Dave Grohl y Krist Novoselic lo han expresado en múltiples ocasiones, el suicidio, las drogas, los desórdenes mentales y los problemas sociales son asuntos muy serios que deben dejar de ser tabú o idealizaciones adolescentes y ser enfrentados como lo que son, debemos sacar el oso que escondemos en el refrigerador y afrontar la realidad de que muchas personas y quizás nosotros mismos necesitemos ayuda. Debemos apartar el miedo para permitir que historias como la de Kurt no se repitan de forma sistemática como hasta ahora viene sucediendo, que alguien hable de ello no debe ser vergonzoso, debe ser lo que es, tomar el toro por los cuernos y reflejar la suficiente empatía en el otro para dejar de ser solo entrometidos y convertirnos en manos amigas.
Finalmente diré que la historia de un hombre no es solo la historia de sus más íntimas inclinaciones, miedos y sentimientos; también es la historia de la generación que lo rodea y la herencia social de sus precedentes; así que la historia de un hombre viene a convertirse en la historia de todos, Kurt creció donde no quería y tuvo que luchar por sobrevivir sin lograr nunca adaptarse a un entorno que ni el entendía ni lo entendía a él; Kurt cambio las cosas, pero no fue fácil su lucha y al final dejo mucho dolor y sangre en el camino. ¿Entonces qué es lo más importante, la meta o el camino? Maquiavelo diría que la meta, Lewis Carroll que el camino yo les diría que no se, al final los cuerpos siempre terminan en el atolladero, entonces dejemos volar un poco las almas que es lo único que nos queda.
Yo no creo que sea mejor quemarse que apagarse lentamente, creo que es mejor quemar al mundo y ya.
(De alguna forma el libro me recuerda a la película Requiem for a Dream de Darren Aronofsky; esa no la ponía de chicos y al final la terminaron por convertir en una especie de amenaza, si tomas drogas, si te apartas del camino, si sueñas este será tu final)
21 mayo 2019.
video reseña en:
https://www.instagram.com/p/Bx-AmgNlpDT/
http://danesda.blogspot.com/2019/05/h...
July 14, 2008
Those who know me best are aware that, besides books, music is my other big passion. There is not a single day that I don't feel the need to get carried away by songs that make me remember places, situations, persons and emotions. I don't constantly try to hear new bands or artists, because I'd rather stick with the ones I already love. Nirvana is one of those bands.
Most of you probably have heard of Nirvana, the most memorable band of the 90's, also because the tragedy that ended up the band, but what really stands out for me is the ethereal and timeless music.
Heavier Than Heaven tells the story of the man who created Nirvana, from his childhood until the tragedy surrounding his death. This book also accounts for the story of Nirvana. Although I'm not catholic, reading this book was a little like reading Jesus Christ story: even though I know the end, it's impossible to avoid the desire that it had been otherwise.
While I was reading about Kurt Cobain's life, I realised the devastating impact that a divorce during the childhood can have in a particularly sensitive and different child. Sometimes, there are profoundly defining events in our lifes and, if we don't have the mental structure that allow us to carry on, the consequences can be catastrophic. I've read the story of a man who grey in the middle of contradictions inside himself, like spending his whole life wanting to be loved and then succumb when he had the entire world at his feet. I followed the story of a genius (he was one, like it or not) that without his peculiar character and the traumatic events that he had to go trough, wouldn't have left us what he did. It's also an account (sometimes shocking) of what drug addiction can make to a person.
I can't avoid feeling sad reading this tragic tale, but sometimes we have to stand face to face with others' struggles so we can learn to put things in perspective and learn. Here's what I learned: life is our most valuable gift.
Since this biography was writen based in interviews (Dave Grohl and Kurt's mother notably stayed out), there is a lot of subjectivy here. Sometimes, I think the author took too much liberties in his assumptions.
I don't recommend this book lightly, but I think it's a must read for any Nirvana fan and for anyone who cares about the imperfect human being.
Most of you probably have heard of Nirvana, the most memorable band of the 90's, also because the tragedy that ended up the band, but what really stands out for me is the ethereal and timeless music.
Heavier Than Heaven tells the story of the man who created Nirvana, from his childhood until the tragedy surrounding his death. This book also accounts for the story of Nirvana. Although I'm not catholic, reading this book was a little like reading Jesus Christ story: even though I know the end, it's impossible to avoid the desire that it had been otherwise.
While I was reading about Kurt Cobain's life, I realised the devastating impact that a divorce during the childhood can have in a particularly sensitive and different child. Sometimes, there are profoundly defining events in our lifes and, if we don't have the mental structure that allow us to carry on, the consequences can be catastrophic. I've read the story of a man who grey in the middle of contradictions inside himself, like spending his whole life wanting to be loved and then succumb when he had the entire world at his feet. I followed the story of a genius (he was one, like it or not) that without his peculiar character and the traumatic events that he had to go trough, wouldn't have left us what he did. It's also an account (sometimes shocking) of what drug addiction can make to a person.
I can't avoid feeling sad reading this tragic tale, but sometimes we have to stand face to face with others' struggles so we can learn to put things in perspective and learn. Here's what I learned: life is our most valuable gift.
Since this biography was writen based in interviews (Dave Grohl and Kurt's mother notably stayed out), there is a lot of subjectivy here. Sometimes, I think the author took too much liberties in his assumptions.
I don't recommend this book lightly, but I think it's a must read for any Nirvana fan and for anyone who cares about the imperfect human being.
March 30, 2008
Baru selesai baca kemarin malam. Akhirnya selesai juga baca kisah si motornya Nirvana ini :D. Meski yang gua baca itu versi terjemahan bahasa Indonesianya, kayaknya gua pengen beli juga yang versi aslinya.
Bytheway. Buku ini cukup rinci nyeritain kisah hidup Kurt Cobain. Tentu beserta Nirvana n keluarganya. Pokoknya semua yang dirasa pernah ada hubungan dengan Kurt, dituangkan secara kronologis di buku ini. Si penulisnya melakukan 400 wawancara selama empat taun dengan orang-orang yang pernah bersinggungan jalan dengan jalan hidup Kurt, sebelum buku ini akhirnya jadi. Jadi ya setidaknya buku ini bisa lah dijadiin gambaran awal mengenai kisah kehidupan Kurt.
Gua sendiri selagi dan setelah baca buku ini jadi ngerasa kasian sama Kurt. Ternyata ada orang yang begitu merasa kesepian. Padahal dia rockstar tenar. Banyak anak muda yang menjadikannya pahlawan. Banyak fans-nya yang begitu 'look-up to him'. Tapi kok ya itu semua ga ngebantu dia keluar dari masalahnya: drugs. Padahal ga sedikit yang mencintai dia, meski dengan cara mereka masing-masing -yang bisa dibilang rada aneh juga.
Buat yang ngaku fans berat Kurt Cobain (dan otomatis Nirvana juga -lu ga bisa nyebut Kurt Cobain tanpa Nirvana, dan sebaliknya), buku ini harus dibaca! Ambil sisi postifnya, buang jauh-jauh sisi negatifnya -yang banyak itu. Jadiin buku ini sebagai satu pelajaran: jangan pernah, JANGAN PERNAH sekali pun -bahkan untuk coba-coba- make narkoba! GA ADA gunanya sama sekali.
Satu lagi: jangan bunuh diri. Dosa :D. Apapun masalah yang lu hadapi, seberat apapun masalah yang lu pikul, masih ada Tuhan yang bakal nolong kita kalo kita bener-bener berusaha dan berdoa. Tuhan kita baik, kok :-) percaya, deh.
Tambahan: Ternyata, kematian Kurt masih dipertanyakan: bunuh diri atau dibunuh? :-)
Bytheway. Buku ini cukup rinci nyeritain kisah hidup Kurt Cobain. Tentu beserta Nirvana n keluarganya. Pokoknya semua yang dirasa pernah ada hubungan dengan Kurt, dituangkan secara kronologis di buku ini. Si penulisnya melakukan 400 wawancara selama empat taun dengan orang-orang yang pernah bersinggungan jalan dengan jalan hidup Kurt, sebelum buku ini akhirnya jadi. Jadi ya setidaknya buku ini bisa lah dijadiin gambaran awal mengenai kisah kehidupan Kurt.
Gua sendiri selagi dan setelah baca buku ini jadi ngerasa kasian sama Kurt. Ternyata ada orang yang begitu merasa kesepian. Padahal dia rockstar tenar. Banyak anak muda yang menjadikannya pahlawan. Banyak fans-nya yang begitu 'look-up to him'. Tapi kok ya itu semua ga ngebantu dia keluar dari masalahnya: drugs. Padahal ga sedikit yang mencintai dia, meski dengan cara mereka masing-masing -yang bisa dibilang rada aneh juga.
Buat yang ngaku fans berat Kurt Cobain (dan otomatis Nirvana juga -lu ga bisa nyebut Kurt Cobain tanpa Nirvana, dan sebaliknya), buku ini harus dibaca! Ambil sisi postifnya, buang jauh-jauh sisi negatifnya -yang banyak itu. Jadiin buku ini sebagai satu pelajaran: jangan pernah, JANGAN PERNAH sekali pun -bahkan untuk coba-coba- make narkoba! GA ADA gunanya sama sekali.
Satu lagi: jangan bunuh diri. Dosa :D. Apapun masalah yang lu hadapi, seberat apapun masalah yang lu pikul, masih ada Tuhan yang bakal nolong kita kalo kita bener-bener berusaha dan berdoa. Tuhan kita baik, kok :-) percaya, deh.
Tambahan: Ternyata, kematian Kurt masih dipertanyakan: bunuh diri atau dibunuh? :-)
March 9, 2022
“He was able to sit in silence for long stretches without feeling a need to make small talk.”
November 24, 2008
This book is the Courtney Love sanctioned version of Kurt Cobain. May be something to bear in mind while reading it.
June 17, 2017
DISCLAIMER
If anyone tries to bash Kurt, I'll knife you.
Yes, he was addicted to heroin, he was troubled and he wasn't necessarily a great person all the time, but he gave so much and his work means a lot to a lot of people.
Me included.
END OF DISCLAIMER
I think the hardest books to rate arer biographies, autobiographies and memoir, for the simple reason that it feels like you are giving a rating to someone's life. Like, yeah, Kurt Cobain, he was like a 3 stars, i didn't like some of the things he did.
So, while I'm not sure what criteria I should exactly use for the purpose of rating a non fiction work about a person, there were elements of Heavier than Heaven that didn't sit too well with me, hence the meh rating.
For starters, it really is too detailed. It's hard to get through because the text is really dense and it reads like a super long Wikipedia article. Some parts were overdone and unnecessary, and I had to take one star off. But, that being said, I liked how objective it felt, without trying to sugar coat anything. Cross portrayed Kurt as a moody, disturbed and depressed person who had a serious addiction problem, which is more or less who Kurt was.
The reason why I took another star off was the way the suicide was handled. It felt too detailed and made me feel very uncomfortable, and just like many other parts of the book, as if I were going too deep into somebody else's personal life.
Nirvana is a band that marked my adolescence, just like it did for generations of people. Heavier than Heaven was a fascinating book. It offered so much insight and history and I'm really glad I've finally read it, since it felt like returning to a specific part of my growing up.
If anyone tries to bash Kurt, I'll knife you.
Yes, he was addicted to heroin, he was troubled and he wasn't necessarily a great person all the time, but he gave so much and his work means a lot to a lot of people.
Me included.
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I think the hardest books to rate arer biographies, autobiographies and memoir, for the simple reason that it feels like you are giving a rating to someone's life. Like, yeah, Kurt Cobain, he was like a 3 stars, i didn't like some of the things he did.
So, while I'm not sure what criteria I should exactly use for the purpose of rating a non fiction work about a person, there were elements of Heavier than Heaven that didn't sit too well with me, hence the meh rating.
For starters, it really is too detailed. It's hard to get through because the text is really dense and it reads like a super long Wikipedia article. Some parts were overdone and unnecessary, and I had to take one star off. But, that being said, I liked how objective it felt, without trying to sugar coat anything. Cross portrayed Kurt as a moody, disturbed and depressed person who had a serious addiction problem, which is more or less who Kurt was.
The reason why I took another star off was the way the suicide was handled. It felt too detailed and made me feel very uncomfortable, and just like many other parts of the book, as if I were going too deep into somebody else's personal life.
Nirvana is a band that marked my adolescence, just like it did for generations of people. Heavier than Heaven was a fascinating book. It offered so much insight and history and I'm really glad I've finally read it, since it felt like returning to a specific part of my growing up.
August 20, 2021
"I had never asked you to make me care about you but it happened - against the hype, against the odds - and now you are in my imagination forever. And I figure you're in heaven too. But how exactly does it help you now, to know that you, too, were once adored?" Dit schreef de Canadese auteur Douglas Coupland in een brief aan Kurt Cobain, net na zijn dood in zijn essaybundel "Polaroids from the Dead". Ook al vond ik deze bundel van één van mijn favoriete auteurs (die eer dankt hij bijna enkel en alleen aan zijn cultboek "Generation X") wisselvallig van toon en flets geschreven, is deze brief lang blijven hangen. Samen met het verhaal "The German Reporter", voor de volledigheid.
Ik weet nog dat ik toen, net de twintig gepasseerd, iets gelijkaardigs voelde. En ook nog precies waar ik was toen ik het nieuws te horen kreeg dat de frontman van één van de bands die mijn adolescentie en mijn verdere muzieksmaak mee vorm gegeven hebben, zichzelf voor de kop geschoten had. "Heavier than Heaven", de naam van de Europese tour van Nirvana in 1989, kon geen passender titel zijn voor dit boek. Voor mij was het de eerste biografie die ik ooit gelezen heb, en ik heb het me nog geen seconde beklaagd dat het die van Kurt Cobain was.
Charles R. Cross heeft zich voor zijn boek gebaseerd op meer dan 400 interviews en had inzage in massa's authentieke documenten, waaronder correspondentie en dagboeken van de zanger. Hoe hij uit die verscheidenheid aan bronnen zo'n consistent en uitgebalanceerd verhaal kon puren, is mij een raadsel. En hij doet dat zonder enig waardeoordeel, maar eerder als een bevoorrechte getuige, een verslaggever, een onzichtbare toeschouwer. Tussen de grote verhaallijnen en gebeurtenissen door geeft hij een schat aan anekdotes, petites histoires en citaten mee, waardoor het verhaal letterlijk geen seconde verveelt. Enkel op het einde, in het laatste hoofdstuk ("Een hiernamaals als dat van Leonard Cohen, april 1995 - mei 1999) verandert de toon, wordt hij wat (melo-)dramatisch en gaat hij soms kort door de bocht. Wat jammer is, maar na meer dan 400 pagina's leesplezier vergeef je dat de auteur maar al te graag.
Naast zijn kindertijd en jeugd, getekend door de scheiding van zijn ouders en door het opgroeien in Aberdeen, word je deelachtig aan de weg die Kurt Cobain aflegt richting roem en de dikke miserie die daar in zijn geval mee gepaard gaat. Een paar van zijn liefjes passeren de revue, tot hij bij Courtney Love eindigt. Dat het verhaal over de relatie met de frontvrouw van Hole veel genuanceerder is dan het beeld dat de pers na de dood van Kurt ophing, spreekt voor zich. Mooi ook om te zien hoe andere artiesten en groepen waar ik als tiener en prille twintiger naar opkeek, het privéleven van de zanger in- en uitschuiven: Mark Lanegan, Axl Rose, Sonic Youth en last but not least, Billy Corgan, om er maar een paar bij naam te noemen.
Voor mij persoonlijk waren de vele passages waar de genese van songteksten aangehaald en uitgepuurd werd, de mooiste en de interessantste. De teksten die we mee brulden op fuiven en gretig - ja, zelfs met een zekere verbetenheid - herlazen en analyseerden, krijgen door dit boek een extra gelaagdheid. Een extra betekenislaagje doordat je de negen versies die aan de uiteindelijke lyrics voorafgingen te zien krijgt. Voor wie ze bedoeld waren en vanuit welk perspectief Kurt ze geschreven heeft. Noodzakelijk is het niet om de muziek ten volle te appreciëren en te vatten, maar het is een machtig extraatje bij de nummers en de muziek die tot ons collectief geheugen behoren. Of we het nu willen of niet.
Ik weet nog dat ik toen, net de twintig gepasseerd, iets gelijkaardigs voelde. En ook nog precies waar ik was toen ik het nieuws te horen kreeg dat de frontman van één van de bands die mijn adolescentie en mijn verdere muzieksmaak mee vorm gegeven hebben, zichzelf voor de kop geschoten had. "Heavier than Heaven", de naam van de Europese tour van Nirvana in 1989, kon geen passender titel zijn voor dit boek. Voor mij was het de eerste biografie die ik ooit gelezen heb, en ik heb het me nog geen seconde beklaagd dat het die van Kurt Cobain was.
Charles R. Cross heeft zich voor zijn boek gebaseerd op meer dan 400 interviews en had inzage in massa's authentieke documenten, waaronder correspondentie en dagboeken van de zanger. Hoe hij uit die verscheidenheid aan bronnen zo'n consistent en uitgebalanceerd verhaal kon puren, is mij een raadsel. En hij doet dat zonder enig waardeoordeel, maar eerder als een bevoorrechte getuige, een verslaggever, een onzichtbare toeschouwer. Tussen de grote verhaallijnen en gebeurtenissen door geeft hij een schat aan anekdotes, petites histoires en citaten mee, waardoor het verhaal letterlijk geen seconde verveelt. Enkel op het einde, in het laatste hoofdstuk ("Een hiernamaals als dat van Leonard Cohen, april 1995 - mei 1999) verandert de toon, wordt hij wat (melo-)dramatisch en gaat hij soms kort door de bocht. Wat jammer is, maar na meer dan 400 pagina's leesplezier vergeef je dat de auteur maar al te graag.
Naast zijn kindertijd en jeugd, getekend door de scheiding van zijn ouders en door het opgroeien in Aberdeen, word je deelachtig aan de weg die Kurt Cobain aflegt richting roem en de dikke miserie die daar in zijn geval mee gepaard gaat. Een paar van zijn liefjes passeren de revue, tot hij bij Courtney Love eindigt. Dat het verhaal over de relatie met de frontvrouw van Hole veel genuanceerder is dan het beeld dat de pers na de dood van Kurt ophing, spreekt voor zich. Mooi ook om te zien hoe andere artiesten en groepen waar ik als tiener en prille twintiger naar opkeek, het privéleven van de zanger in- en uitschuiven: Mark Lanegan, Axl Rose, Sonic Youth en last but not least, Billy Corgan, om er maar een paar bij naam te noemen.
Voor mij persoonlijk waren de vele passages waar de genese van songteksten aangehaald en uitgepuurd werd, de mooiste en de interessantste. De teksten die we mee brulden op fuiven en gretig - ja, zelfs met een zekere verbetenheid - herlazen en analyseerden, krijgen door dit boek een extra gelaagdheid. Een extra betekenislaagje doordat je de negen versies die aan de uiteindelijke lyrics voorafgingen te zien krijgt. Voor wie ze bedoeld waren en vanuit welk perspectief Kurt ze geschreven heeft. Noodzakelijk is het niet om de muziek ten volle te appreciëren en te vatten, maar het is een machtig extraatje bij de nummers en de muziek die tot ons collectief geheugen behoren. Of we het nu willen of niet.
March 21, 2008
Interesting fact No. 1: KC's first concert was not the Melvins or some such punk band, but Sammy Hagar, who has shown surprisingly restraint in not naming a brand of tequila after the now-Converse branded icon.
That's just one reason why this book about The Voice of Your Generation is valuable: it's proof that no one is born punk or even cool, but that it's an attitude one accrues by hanging around the right crowd. That's why the real heroines here aren't named Courtney but first girlfriend Tracy Marander and Bikini Kill drummer Tobi Vail, from whom KC learned most of his sexual politics.
I agree with the GoodReader who said this bio's strongest in the early years where a lot of the mythology is parsed. Toward the end it just gets sad---i.e. the home movie of Kurt and Courtney bathing the baby with a syringe in the background hanging on the toothbrush rack.
I sense a big revisionary wave coming on about Nirvana. Twenty years later the music still socks a punch but there seems a need out there to make it seem far less meaningful than it did from 91-94. That's too bad, because it really was, musically, an exciting time... probably the only time my generation felt like a community (even if everybody was denying there was such a thing as a generational identity). In the end, it would have been much more compelling to watch KC mature (that dreaded word) and become a survivor that to have to bear all the black velvet tributes. I guess that's why, as often as I've thumbed through the initial third of this bio, I've never been motivated to reread it to the end. The story didn't need to end this way, and only the show-bizzers get any pleasure out of it.
That's just one reason why this book about The Voice of Your Generation is valuable: it's proof that no one is born punk or even cool, but that it's an attitude one accrues by hanging around the right crowd. That's why the real heroines here aren't named Courtney but first girlfriend Tracy Marander and Bikini Kill drummer Tobi Vail, from whom KC learned most of his sexual politics.
I agree with the GoodReader who said this bio's strongest in the early years where a lot of the mythology is parsed. Toward the end it just gets sad---i.e. the home movie of Kurt and Courtney bathing the baby with a syringe in the background hanging on the toothbrush rack.
I sense a big revisionary wave coming on about Nirvana. Twenty years later the music still socks a punch but there seems a need out there to make it seem far less meaningful than it did from 91-94. That's too bad, because it really was, musically, an exciting time... probably the only time my generation felt like a community (even if everybody was denying there was such a thing as a generational identity). In the end, it would have been much more compelling to watch KC mature (that dreaded word) and become a survivor that to have to bear all the black velvet tributes. I guess that's why, as often as I've thumbed through the initial third of this bio, I've never been motivated to reread it to the end. The story didn't need to end this way, and only the show-bizzers get any pleasure out of it.
March 26, 2013
Hmmmm... well, I don't read a lot of biographies. I didn't know a lot about Kurt Cobain even though I am a Nirvana fan. The book was interesting and the author seemed to have interviewed and researched a lot of facts. Mostly what I took from this book is that Kurt was a complex person plagued with self doubt, physical pain, issues of abandonment and a family history of mental illness. Oh and he made a conscious decision to be a drug addict. And, wow, did he do a lot of drugs.
The parts about the song writing/lyrics were very interesting and made me want to get out those Nirvana Cds and listen to them with the context given by the book.
I question some parts about Courtney Love. The author made her seem like the more stable of the two. Which seeing what a mess she has been in recent years, I just question the way the author portrayed her in the book.
I think the author took a lot of liberties with the end and the suicide.
Overall it was an interesting book. If you are a Nirvana fan, I'd say read it, but I wouldn't say this book is THE authority on Cobain. I might read some of the other biographies out there to compare.
The parts about the song writing/lyrics were very interesting and made me want to get out those Nirvana Cds and listen to them with the context given by the book.
I question some parts about Courtney Love. The author made her seem like the more stable of the two. Which seeing what a mess she has been in recent years, I just question the way the author portrayed her in the book.
I think the author took a lot of liberties with the end and the suicide.
Overall it was an interesting book. If you are a Nirvana fan, I'd say read it, but I wouldn't say this book is THE authority on Cobain. I might read some of the other biographies out there to compare.
January 26, 2017
A dispiriting overview of a car-wreck life with an inevitable tragic ending. Yet the most depressing thing is not its subject, nor the misjudged final chapter, but the fact that it is almost impossible to go online without being bombarded with 'Courtney murdered Kurt' hysteria. And, of course, Cross is castigated for not indulging in such idle speculation - he's obviously one of Love's minions. I guess if you are going to elevate someone to Sainthood, then someone must play the part of She Devil, and the Grunge Yoko fits the bill. But consider some facts before you drag ol' witchy Courtney to the stake.
His teenage friends - you know, people who actually knew him as opposed to those who felt a 'connection' to him through his music - described him as 'the shape of suicide'; the journals he kept diligently from childhood right up to his death are filled with constant thoughts of suicide; his song lyrics are often frequent paeans to feelings of despair and alienation; he wrote (you may spot a bit of a theme here) several suicide notes during the final months of his life. He bought a gun days before his death.
Perhaps - and I realize this a crazy notion, but bear with me - he actually committed suicide.
Or perhaps he's still alive, sharing a farmhouse with Elvis and Bruce Lee in Denial, Ohio.
His teenage friends - you know, people who actually knew him as opposed to those who felt a 'connection' to him through his music - described him as 'the shape of suicide'; the journals he kept diligently from childhood right up to his death are filled with constant thoughts of suicide; his song lyrics are often frequent paeans to feelings of despair and alienation; he wrote (you may spot a bit of a theme here) several suicide notes during the final months of his life. He bought a gun days before his death.
Perhaps - and I realize this a crazy notion, but bear with me - he actually committed suicide.
Or perhaps he's still alive, sharing a farmhouse with Elvis and Bruce Lee in Denial, Ohio.
September 24, 2022
[..] labāk ir sadegt nekā izgaist [..] Kurts Kobeins
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October 18, 2022
3.5 stars. This is my first time reading a biography so I took it with a grain of salt. I knew that things might be exaggerated/not exactly true when I picked up the book. At times it felt very disturbing and intrusive to read such details about Kurt’s life, and I kept thinking about if he really would’ve want this made public or not.
I did not like how the author describes taking his own life, as if he knew what Kurt was really thinking. Overall I truly feel for Kurt throughout his battle with depression and addiction, and for all those who sincerely loved and cared about him. It was a very emotional read, leaving me with a lot of time to reflect.
I did not like how the author describes taking his own life, as if he knew what Kurt was really thinking. Overall I truly feel for Kurt throughout his battle with depression and addiction, and for all those who sincerely loved and cared about him. It was a very emotional read, leaving me with a lot of time to reflect.
March 20, 2022
This is the only "real" biography of Kurt Cobain in existence. Because it is furnished with interviews and source material provided by his friends, band members, family, and widow, Heavier Than Heaven is ostensibly essential reading for people who grew-up fans of Nirvana, as I did.
However, the book is shaped by the self-interests of the widow in question, the controversial Courtney Love, who would like to wash her hands of anything that may have played into Cobain's suicide, such as the affair she was allegedly having with Smashing Pumpkins vocalist Billy Corgan. That's understandable, but hardly makes for objective reading.
What damns the book is a question of journalistic integrity.
I don't understand what could have possessed Charles R. Cross and his editors to include at least two scenes that take place entirely in Cobain's head; the man wasn't around to describe them. The first one follows Cobain after he loses his virginity, walking in a field and sniffing himself, his every intimate gesture and feeling described. That's questionable in and of itself, but we could give Cross the benefit of the doubt; it's unlikely, but maybe there's a quote or diary entry somewhere.
The second one attempts to get inside Cobain's head in the hours leading up to his suicide. For a moment, the narrative is honourable: Cross sticks to describing what witnesses saw. But then it follows Cobain inside the house, paces with him inside the kitchen, and stays in his head when he enters the greenhouse, remaining until Cobain sticks a gun in there and blows out what I can only assume was the spirit of Cross, sagely nodding and taking notes for the authorised biography he'd write.
I don't subscribe to a simplistic falsus in uno, falsus in omnibus, but this is so egregious it discolours the entire book. If a person's death is entirely invented, then what other parts of this book are false? If history holds, surely Cross would have started inventing small things before going big?
Despite the fun anecdotes and even, to some degree, the psychological profile of Cobain illustrated, Heavier Than Heaven is bad journalism and, in a context where nothing but the facts matter, therefore a bad book.
However, the book is shaped by the self-interests of the widow in question, the controversial Courtney Love, who would like to wash her hands of anything that may have played into Cobain's suicide, such as the affair she was allegedly having with Smashing Pumpkins vocalist Billy Corgan. That's understandable, but hardly makes for objective reading.
What damns the book is a question of journalistic integrity.
I don't understand what could have possessed Charles R. Cross and his editors to include at least two scenes that take place entirely in Cobain's head; the man wasn't around to describe them. The first one follows Cobain after he loses his virginity, walking in a field and sniffing himself, his every intimate gesture and feeling described. That's questionable in and of itself, but we could give Cross the benefit of the doubt; it's unlikely, but maybe there's a quote or diary entry somewhere.
The second one attempts to get inside Cobain's head in the hours leading up to his suicide. For a moment, the narrative is honourable: Cross sticks to describing what witnesses saw. But then it follows Cobain inside the house, paces with him inside the kitchen, and stays in his head when he enters the greenhouse, remaining until Cobain sticks a gun in there and blows out what I can only assume was the spirit of Cross, sagely nodding and taking notes for the authorised biography he'd write.
I don't subscribe to a simplistic falsus in uno, falsus in omnibus, but this is so egregious it discolours the entire book. If a person's death is entirely invented, then what other parts of this book are false? If history holds, surely Cross would have started inventing small things before going big?
Despite the fun anecdotes and even, to some degree, the psychological profile of Cobain illustrated, Heavier Than Heaven is bad journalism and, in a context where nothing but the facts matter, therefore a bad book.
July 18, 2008
I had read Michael Azerad's "Come as You Are," the story of Nirvana way back in the day so I knew quite a bit about Kurt's life and the history of the band. This went a lot deeper and was compiled of many sources, family members and friends of the band and was a lot more true to life. Michael Azerad's book was based on interviews with the band, so it was mostly how the band wanted to portray themselves. This book made me decide that if I had known Kurt I would have thought him a lazy, self-absorbed butthead. Although he was an amazing artist. It was detailed, sad, and honest. My boyfriend Patt thought that the author came off as a little too idolizing of Kurt, but I didn't see that as much. Overall I would recommend it, there are probably many other biographies out there about Kurt but this one would most likely be the best.
January 26, 2023
This book gets one star since it was available as an audiobook - that’s the only way I could finish it!
May 23, 2024
Okay, this book made me furious. I'm convinced Kurt stole this author's girlfriend or something. This was pure slander from start to finish. It painted Kurt out to be a miserable little punk with zero redeeming qualities. There is so much vulgar and personal material in here that serves no point at all. A human being is not defined by some cringey sex-related jokes they made when they were literally a teenager. And yet this book goes on and on about Kurt doing and saying dumb things as a teen that almost all stupid teens do and say. And then it expects us to shake our heads as we read like "Wow, I had no idea Kurt was such a gross weirdo. Such a shame". Get the hell outta here. There was so much useless information in here that did not even attempt to illustrate the better sides of Kurt's nature and how much he cared about the world.
I can't believe this was even published. I don't know what this author's problem is but I strongly encourage pretty much everyone to ignore this shit book. This is not an attempt to show us the real Kurt Cobain. This is a blatant hit piece designed to ONLY give us glimpses of a human being's anger, pettiness, vulgarity and childish crudity. Things most human beings fall victim to at some point throughout their lives. There is no light or respect to be found within these pages. This author just really hated Kurt Cobain. Every interaction Kurt has with anyone in this book is painted in a way where Kurt was in the wrong, no matter what it was.
I mean, Courtney Love gets high instead of looking for Kurt when he goes missing and the author is like "It makes perfect sense for Courtney to lose herself to her stress and fall off the wagon like that. Shame on Kurt for worrying her like that just before blowing his brains out with a shotgun". ARE YOU SERIOUS?
And then Courtney throws a temper tantrum at Kurt's FUNERAL through a recording of herself (you know, because she refused to go to his funeral) where she tells everyone there - nay, DEMANDS - that everyone in attendance yell out that Kurt is an asshole, to which the crowd complies. And then she goes on a rant about what a stupid bastard Kurt was. And the author is like "Poor Courtney was dealing with so much. She processed her emotions in complex ways. Shame on Kurt to blow his brains out and leave poor Courtney alone like that. So selfish." WHO WROTE THIS SHIT? There were times when I honestly wondered if I were reading a parody.
This book is garbage. If anyone can point me in the direction of an actually good Kurt Cobain biography, I would very much appreciate it. I have wasted my time here.
I can't believe this was even published. I don't know what this author's problem is but I strongly encourage pretty much everyone to ignore this shit book. This is not an attempt to show us the real Kurt Cobain. This is a blatant hit piece designed to ONLY give us glimpses of a human being's anger, pettiness, vulgarity and childish crudity. Things most human beings fall victim to at some point throughout their lives. There is no light or respect to be found within these pages. This author just really hated Kurt Cobain. Every interaction Kurt has with anyone in this book is painted in a way where Kurt was in the wrong, no matter what it was.
I mean, Courtney Love gets high instead of looking for Kurt when he goes missing and the author is like "It makes perfect sense for Courtney to lose herself to her stress and fall off the wagon like that. Shame on Kurt for worrying her like that just before blowing his brains out with a shotgun". ARE YOU SERIOUS?
And then Courtney throws a temper tantrum at Kurt's FUNERAL through a recording of herself (you know, because she refused to go to his funeral) where she tells everyone there - nay, DEMANDS - that everyone in attendance yell out that Kurt is an asshole, to which the crowd complies. And then she goes on a rant about what a stupid bastard Kurt was. And the author is like "Poor Courtney was dealing with so much. She processed her emotions in complex ways. Shame on Kurt to blow his brains out and leave poor Courtney alone like that. So selfish." WHO WROTE THIS SHIT? There were times when I honestly wondered if I were reading a parody.
This book is garbage. If anyone can point me in the direction of an actually good Kurt Cobain biography, I would very much appreciate it. I have wasted my time here.
March 15, 2008
It is a bit of a cliche of celebrity, but Kurt Cobain really was an incredibly contradictory personality. Part of the fun of Heavier Than Heaven is trying to take all of the evidence, presented in amazing detail by Charles R. Cross, and trying to piece together what kind of person he was.
As anyone casually familiar with Cobain knows, he was constantly trying to strike a balance between his strong punk sense of morality and his desire to get his music out to a large audience. Deeper than just a creative marketing ploy, Cobain seemed genuinely torn between stardom and artistic integrity. This can be seen in the way it effected him in not only his professional life but his private life as well. Cobain seemed to always be a best friend or a bitter rival, with little in between. He hated being a junky but couldn't live without heroin.
Fans of Cobain are faced with a similar conundrum. It was this delicate balance between the two worlds that made the music great; music with an edge and a palatable emotional intensity that was at the same time accessable and catchy. It perfectly straddled the line between ugly and beautiful, melodious and dischordant, gentle and rough.
But at the same time these opposing forces ended up destroying him. Trying to pin down a single reason, or single instance that lead to his death would be futile. The closest we can come is saying that his inner confusion and self-loathing became too much. Fans have to deal with the fact that what made his music great is what killed him, and decide what that means to us when we listen.
As anyone casually familiar with Cobain knows, he was constantly trying to strike a balance between his strong punk sense of morality and his desire to get his music out to a large audience. Deeper than just a creative marketing ploy, Cobain seemed genuinely torn between stardom and artistic integrity. This can be seen in the way it effected him in not only his professional life but his private life as well. Cobain seemed to always be a best friend or a bitter rival, with little in between. He hated being a junky but couldn't live without heroin.
Fans of Cobain are faced with a similar conundrum. It was this delicate balance between the two worlds that made the music great; music with an edge and a palatable emotional intensity that was at the same time accessable and catchy. It perfectly straddled the line between ugly and beautiful, melodious and dischordant, gentle and rough.
But at the same time these opposing forces ended up destroying him. Trying to pin down a single reason, or single instance that lead to his death would be futile. The closest we can come is saying that his inner confusion and self-loathing became too much. Fans have to deal with the fact that what made his music great is what killed him, and decide what that means to us when we listen.
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